Successful, Black, and Lonely - Why Black Women Can't Find Happiness...Anna, get in here!

I laughed my ass off at 'Winter Boo'. Now I will be paranoid if a black chick likes me in the winter months!

And where are all the successful black men? The answer:





Personally, I just don't go for the dark meat. It has nothing to do with their attitudes or them being mean. I just don't find a lot of black girls visually pleasant.

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You're unsuccessful, Asian and lonely, you should write a book too!

P.S

Thanks for building the railway for me back in the day!

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WTF about being lonely.....DC isn't too far from Army installations.
There are gazillions of successful potential boyfriends who would be all up into her. It would be a buyer's market for her!

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She deserves to be lonely.

What a bitch. This isn't how you treat people.

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I need a boo?

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Hide in her car's trunk and yell "boo!" when she opens it!
Ladies just love surprises!

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So she's complaining about the stereotypes of successful black women by proving those stereotypes correct and expressing that we "just can't handle it."

Not only that, she seems to treat men in exactly the same way that stereotypical men treat women. This is a great example of how some women go so far with feminism as not to eliminate the status they complain about, but reverse it.

It's not about equality, it's about vengeance and pleasure. Fuck this lady.

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EDIT: This space is a double post.

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Personally, I do not see a resemblance. The chimpanzee has a light skinned face. Maybe you should've used a gorilla picture?

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Vandy here. I know you were waiting for me. To explain:
Boo is just a black slang term for sweetheart. It's like saying pumpkin or honey or whatever. My dad calls my mom "boo".

As for the successful, single, and lonely...Helena is the same age as me. It's pretty much spot on. I don't expect many of you to identify or understand, as much of what she writes about is far away from your experience.
In all honesty, it's a numbers game. There are just more successful Black women than men, it's something like 5 to 1. Since as Scorpknock so delicately put it, many men of other races don't go for the "dark meat" based on a plethora of social and historical reasons, that leaves many Black women simply out of luck. We can't all marry Robert Deniro.
I've made my peace with it.

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Um, maybe she's lonely because she's batshit crazy?

Just a thought.

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Another factor (hear me out) is that many black men would rather date white women......less drama and attitude perhaps?

So it's like this - a white woman gets romantic interest from white + black men (if that's her thing).

The black woman....not so much from white men.

YES! THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS! But by + large, you see many more black man/white woman couples rather than white man/black woman.

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Really?

Now tell us about 'baby daddy'.

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From what I've read. and peripherally experienced, it's not that white/asian/latin guys don't want to date black girls, it's the opposite. Most Black women have little desire to date outside their own race (I know you're an exception Vandy). Though it's hard to blame them. In my early '20's I briefly dated a black girl I had met at work. We didn't get any crap from my friends, all white. Just a couple raised eyebrows, and that only once. her friends however were the opposite, Never ending crap from both male and female friends. The most common question was: "What the fuck you doin' wit dat white boy Anita", and not in a friendly, jaunty manner...

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A good friend of mine worked in Atlanta for a couple of years in the mid-90s and, when his black girlfriend would visit him (he's white) and they'd go out, they'd get constantly harassed by other blacks. He said whites there didn't give them a second glance.

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Because whites are so used to seeing black men + white women together, they figure it's inevitable white men will occasionally end up with black women. A few of my co-workers + friends are married to black women.

I really don't care.....people are attracted to another person, period.
I myself don't find black women attractive, but if that's your thing, who am I to judge?

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As Vandy pointed out the number of successful black women is incredibly disproportionate to successful black men. At my old college, there were one black male for ever four black females and nationally a third of all black men under 35 are in jail or prison. If black women limit themselves to their own race, they're likely to get less dick than Rosie O'Donnell

My relatives are still hung up about the race deal. They got pissed when one uncle married a while woman almost thirty years ago and again when my other uncle married a Latina. My aunts would ask my mom every time she mentioned a new boyfriend whether he was black or white. What makes it even more stupid than usual is the fact that my maternal grandmother, and their mother, was 100% white cracker Irish herself!

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Same sort of thing from the Natives on my mother's side of the family. Just goes to show that racism is hardly a "whites only" affair.

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^
The mother of my brother's half-sister was disowned for marrying my brother's father. Her tribe weren't too fond of black men, and in his case, the contempt was well-earned. She was accepted back in when she finally divorced him.

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I'd say it depends on the persons involved. I've dated a few women of color (black, latina, asian) and it was never a problem for my friends (my mom made an issue once during high school, but she's mellowed since then), but on the other side of the street, so to speak? Forget about it!

And this as good a thread as any to drag out an old av:

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You left out the best part:

Having read the whole article, it sounds like this woman has a serious chip on the shoulder and would get the same treatment regardless of skin color.

And people need to get down from their high horse on "settling." There's nothing wrong with marrying a man that makes less than you do or doesn't have an Ivy League education as long as he's respectful, open-minded to your interests and isn't a complete bum. Not everyone can marry Bill Gates or a brain surgeon or rocket scientist.

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^ Hey! Don't knock the Neuro-Surgeons 'til you've tried one baby!

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I think the issue is with the word "settling". To me, it means "taking what you can get", which means "might as well take the next one that comes along". That's not a good thing.
But, I know what you're getting at, which I think would be better defined as "prioritizing", aka, stop looking for the gingerbread man that fits into your cookie cutter image, and instead, work out WHY you have that list.
So for example, instead of holding out for a Doctor, work out what being a Doctor means to you - Does it mean caring/ambitious/rich/intelligent/curious/dedicated/stimulating/looks good in a uniform? Because once you've worked out what makes up "doctor", you might find a "doctor" in the next guy you meet, regardless of his profession.

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Vandy is right but that still doesn't change the fact the lady in the story is an asshole who deserves to be alone.

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Having gone to Princeton for 3 years I can say that a most of the black Ivy league girls were giant bitches, which I guess for the ones that weren't from wealth makes a bit of sense, they worked fucking hard their while life to reach that point and were just tough and smart but not people to fuck with.

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I read a short statistic on obesity in The American Enterprise about 5 years ago.

It had a breakdown of obesity by race and sex.

Among black Americans

a far higher percentage of black women were overweight than black men.

Among white Americans

a far higher percentage of white men were overweight than white women.

So the "black men dating white women" may have something to do with black men seeking a women who is on the average more similiar to their own level of fitness and preference for physical activity (and vice versa for white women).

Another factor I see.

In major sports in America, black men pretty much dominate in numbers. At least in the highly visible football and basketball.

So the image white women (and for that matter most Americans) of the physical assets of black men is a more positive one.

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"I'm a mean woman. I don't date nice people. That's why I'll be alone for the rest of my life. I will always have to settle."

Settle. Settle??!!!. A nice man is settling? What a moron. Any sympathy I might have felt evaporated with that statement. Women who bitch and moan that there are no men but who completely dismiss nice men piss me off. They deserve to be lonely. I thought I'd fucking die when my husband left me but I've been with my new boyfriend going on four months now and he's the best thing that ever happened to me. Supposedly men don't date middle aged women either, but if you're bitter and nasty you'll fulfill that prophecy and be a stereotype. He's 5 years younger than me, but neither of us care. You know what he does for a living? He's a garbage man. I met him when I was hurriedly pushing my trash out to the curb one morning when I overslept. His wife left him a couple of years ago. He's not bad looking, never went to college but he makes a damn good salary (you'd be surprised) with benefits, is going to be able to purchase his own home next year, and he's the funniest man I've ever met in my life. I don't flinch when people ask what he does for a living. I don't call him a "sanitation worker." People seem so surprised when I do that.

Why should I be embarrassed? If I were this broad, I'd have never given him the time of day because of what he does for a living. Oh, and he's nice. I guess I'm "settling." This lady probably has nice men all around her, but they don't have a prestigious enough job for her liking, they're nice, :santa_rolleyes: or they're white. None of that will do for her. Screw her.

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While the subject of the article may express her feelings a bit roughly, she has a point. Black women seem to be out there working for success in far greater numbers than black men.

I've been taking college courses for the last couple of years and can tell you I've seen several black women in my classes, but virtually no black men. The only black men I remember are recent immigrants from Sudan and Ethiopia, who no one would ever confuse with black men whose families have been here for generations.

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It is a sad thing, no doubt.

We need more government programs to pay for and encourage black men to better themselves.