I'm don't have a problem spending money on women I'm interested in, but if they start out expecting it? Fuck'em. I'm not buying anyone's attention. That's one step from just buying a hooker.
That reminds me of this one time when I was at a dance club with some friends. I was just sitting at the bar, enjoying the festivities and this big-boned girl sits next to me. I paid her no mind, and continued to enjoy the revelry. A few minutes later she taps me on the shoulder and says, "you fucking asshole, you're supposed to buy me a drink!" I almost laughed in her face, but restrained myself until she waddled away. Seriously, who the hell does she think she is?
Great write up and appropriate at any age. My wife freely admits with pride that she could go out to the clubs with $5 in her pocket and come home blitzed with $5 still in her pocket. I told her its a good thing we weren't dating during those days because I would have told her to fuck off.
I almost never buy a drink for a girl I'm not already dating or fucking. It's a complete waste of money, they will sleep with you anyway. This has been my policy since I was old enough to go into bars. I wonder how much money I've saved over the guys who buy drinks for every girl that gives him a second look.
I'll buy a girl a drink just because I'm a nice guy. Does that make me a sucker? Maybe, but I find being a nice guy actually works more then trying to be the dick who is different. Besides I have a live in girlfriend so if I'm being nice and buying someone a drink its not because I'm expecting to get into her pants.
As I said, I have no problem spending money on women. That said, there's a difference between accepting generosity and using someone. I refuse to be used. Too many women equate "nice guy" with "sucker I can manipulate."
"I'm sorry, but bars don't usually serve Slim-fast. I suppose I could get you a rum and diet Coke, you definitely don't need any more calories." That line works doubly well on skinny girls. Saying it to a fat girl or a girl with a few extra pounds is mean, but to a skinny girl, it's just confusing. I go to bars more frequently than some, and a girl has never asked me to buy her a drink. I figured it would have happened at least once. Sometimes girls buy me drinks. For as bad at talking to women as I am, I don't understand it. Maybe they weren't interested in talking and just wanted to get into my pants. Again, I don't understand why, but if a cute girl wants to get into my pants I'm not going to argue.
Are you nuts? It'd be rude as hell to say that to her. Besides, she might've gotten pissed and sat on poor Robotech Master.
Worked for me anyway. It actually suited me better because the kind of girl I was looking for was someone who wanted a nice guy and not a jerk. Usually the young girls like the bad boy jerk and then eventually they figure out he's a loser whose not going any where so they do wise up when they get older.
The only flaw in your logic is that you seem to think that every jerk or asshole guy is a loser. I'm glad things worked for you, being yourself is really the only good way to go. I just happen to be a dick. Works like a charm.
The only problem with the guy telling the story is it doesn't sound like he was coming off 'edgy' enough to a girl he just met. Most girls wouldn't ask a guy who is keeping them on their toes to buy them a drink - they would make the offer themselves or say something like let's get another, if we can stand the line again. Maybe the girl was just a bitch, but that was my first reaction reading that.... I wonder if a dude who goes through that much trouble writing up that screed isn't a butthurt pansy anyway. IMHO.
I don't think it was so much revenge, as it was the guy saw this heavier girl getting the ass end treatment just like he was by the same type of people, and so he felt right in offering her a drink to make her feel better. I see nothing wrong with that. A little harmless flirting can make someone's day. I think the guy commenting on the original article got it wrong. It wasn't revenge. If it was revenge the guy would have dumped the heavy girl as soon as the "cute" girl had left. Instead, he followed up and made sure she had a good evening, even finding her a friend to enjoy the rest of the night. Just because he didn't have sex with her doesn't mean he did it for revenge. She was apparently not his type in any physical sense, but he seemed to respect her enough to help her have some fun. I see no harm in that either. Oh, and for the record, I'm a good wingman.
I've never accepted drinks from guys at bars for the very reason he gives and has been repeated in this thread. Guy buys a drink, he expects to get laid. So, I don't accept drinks. But, the anger thing goes both ways. I've had guys go from cool as a cucumber to insane madman because I don't accept a drink from him - like he and his money are special? You get jerks on both sides of the gender gap.
There is a difference between being a nice guy and being a door mat. Buying a woman a drink just because she is breathing and you hope to maybe, kinda, sorta get into her pants is not being nice, its being a sucker. An example of being a nice guy is holding your tongue when she looks like shit.
