[Update] Chardman has passed away

Fuck it.

R.I.P. dude.

Sad to hear. Hope his family knows that many of us on Wordforge send condolences.

And damn. Barely enough time to even say a prayer. Nothing is adequate to say to a persons family at a time like this. I simply hope that one day their grief will pass and only happy memories will remain.

godspeed Chardman.

RIP

Damn, I saw the candlelight vigil post yesterday. And I was thinking it was just one of those goofy, silly ones to poke fun of somebody. But when I saw the topic title was changed to Chardman has passed away, it took me by surprise. My deepest sympathies to his family and those that knew him personally. You will be missed, and whatever your beliefs were I hope you find peace in them.

Go easy, sir.

We Wordforgers are growing old and dying out. This is very depressing.

It might not be as bad if any new blood was coming in.

I guess you can't count on the TrekBBS to f*&# up forever.

Especially when the mods seem intent on driving away long term members with unfairness. But I guess that's a conversation for another day and another thread.

Agreed but far, far, far from the time or place.

Shit. I barely knew Chardman--he joined shortly after I disappeared from this place, and I've only been back for a few weeks. But from his posts, he seemed like a great person. Sorry to see him go, and my deepest condolences to his family and loved ones.

Ugh.

#OneUpOnGul #CopyGul #plagiarism

I'm sorry for you guys' loss. I also want to apologize for my comments in this thread, they were out of line.

Godspeed Chardman.

Yes. Does someone have a contact so we could send them something?

I can link to his Facebook page if given permission.

Well, crap.

Have a nice trip and enjoy the afterlife. It sounded like things were hard at the end, but I hope you passed with as little pain as possible.

To his friends: We only get to enjoy (or otherwise) the company of the people in our lives, but we do not get to decide how long we get to do so. You do not actually miss people who are a part of your life, though you might wish for more.

Via con dios, Chardman.

I think what bothers me so much about this is how fast it happened. I remember talking to him last week, then I get the news the other day that he had a heart attack and was on life support, and then just gone. A single life is a fragile thing that can end in the blink of an eye, regardless of how many other lives are connected to it.

They said the weekend so is that tomorrow or the day after? How long are they going to give him before they give up? Also any update on his condition?

Friend of mine dropped dead of a heart attack in the pub while I was on my way to meet him a few years back. When your number's up, it's up.

He already died. Happened Friday.

Yes.

I was very happy that the head of our paintball crew passed quickly. He was working one day and hospitalized the next and died of the cancer within two weeks. Right up until that night I hear he was doing what he always did. My grandfather passed this summer and it was good to be able to say goodbye before he went unconscious, but seeing him in the hospital was not good. There was no dignity in seeing him shit himself because he could no longer control his bowels, especially since he really was not going to recover to any good point. I told him goodbye and that I would forget ever seeing him like that.

It sounds like Chardman had a deteriorating condition to begin with, but he could still respond and comfort the ones he loved as well as they could comfort him. That is a far better view of him, even if he was unhealthy at the time, than a hospital bed. I lied when I said i would forget that image of my grandfather, as it is salient and not going away. I am glad to not have more of those images. I am also glad i was there visiting him when he was up and about.

Don't wait until the hospital to have those conversations you want to. Suck up whatever pride or annoyance it is to see them and talk to them. The real pain seems to come from having waited so long that it is said in the hospital and not in the comforts of home. You will repeat things in the hospital anyway, but it is better to say them beforehand, even if that person is nowhere near dying. I have never seen any good come out of a drawn out hospital stay that leads to death. It is one thing to keep company for an injury that will heal, but every moment of that lingering is a moment when you will wish you had them fully healthy because it sucks.

I would like that too. Or at least someone posting a link to this thread there so they can know Chardman will be missed.

Lastly, did he die naturally as a result if his heart attack or was it something else? A complication maybe? Was he found to be brain dead due to the long period without oxygen or was it something else? I am sorry if that is prying, it isn't meant to be, but he was my friend and I would like to know more details if possible.

Best wishes to his friends and family at their time of bereavement.

I believe they were going to switch off life support on Friday so either his body gave out before or they pulled the plug.

Not sure we should be linking to this thread on their end considering @Federal Farmer 's earlier comments. @John was one of his FB friends though so can probably post something from the board.