I have one grandmother left. She has lost her husband of a lifetime. So she is always going to be suffering through that. She is in good health and can walk without a shuffle. She is a little forgetful, but it is not full blown dementia. I also think part of the problem is her lifestyle that I am about to complain about. In her lifetime her and her husband made great investments in the NY real estate area and in stocks and development bonds. My grandfather worked for the electric company and she was a teacher all her life in a good school district. So she has retirement money you would not believe. She only got 300 dollars in stimulus because of her income. I do not understand how to help her be happy. I get that I cannot fix the giant hole of her husband dying. Is that so tragic that you simply cannot do anything anymore? I don't know. I could take her anywhere she wants to go. No, that is not something she wants to do. She is in the middle of a very active and engaging older community with tons of different people around. She hates all of them. Covid shut down the one thing she did which was penny slots at the arcades. even that was boring her. I hjave told her I would go along with her on a trip and be there to talk to and do things. She could hire a nurse if she does not want me. I think the inactivity is causing her mental trouble because there is no difference in the days. She is not interested in the great grandkids. Everything is there and she is still depressed and unwilling to do anything. Should I just watch her slowly and painfully succumb to the end of life? I get life is p[ainful when you cannot have something you really need. I am transgendered after all and that is the way it always is watching other people have what you need, but you cannot touch it. But that is not the end of happiness and life appreciation. She has the means to do anything, and maybe I can help her find a path, but it seems like such a lost cause because she won't come out. It is someone in my sphere of influence, so I have an ability to do something. I also have time because nothing happens until after covid is suppressed.