Relationship advice

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  1. K.

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    I think all of what you said is a good sign -- that she can be on good terms with ex boyfriends is as much a sign of maturity as her willingness to stop seeing him if it bothers you.

    So if you can get over your bad feelings, do so; if not, say so and take her offer to do this for you. I think it's okay for one partner to take heed of a partner's irrational emotions in this way now and again. But don't mistake it for anything more worrisome than just that, your irrational discomfort.

    You went to see Cats? :cool:
  2. El Chup

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    ^ Maybe cat related things of a slightly different variety ;)
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    Personally, I say let it go. To me at least ex's were a big part of my life when I was dating them, so anything tied to that time period will be tied to them. Apparantly it is the same with her. All you can do is try and accept that and realize that she is with YOU now, not them and thus you are obviously the better man. Who cares if she mentions some other dude that came up short?
  4. El Chup

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    ^ Yeah, I know you're right. I guess its just the fact that before her I was single for a while, and that I'm not in touch with any former gfs, that's screwing my head in and I'm not grasping it straight away. Plus, I tell you, I love her to bits. She's so different from other gfs I've had. She intelligent, mature, independant and vibrant and she can read me like a book. I've never had that before and so I guess I'm investing more in here emtionally than I have previous women.
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  5. Mrs. Albert

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    If it's a slight uncomfortable feeling, suck it up and get over it. If it's going to give you a panic attack or something, go with her. Telling her not to go will only show that some little part of you doesn't trust her. Try to think of it from her point of view. If you did have an ex that you were still friends with and it freaked her out even after you offered for her to come with you, how would you feel about having to ditch a friend because of her insecurity?
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  6. El Chup

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    Well, I mentioned it again last night and we talked it through properly. She knows I'm uncomfortable and even suggested I go with them. I've told her not to worry about that and for her to go and see the friend. She was being rather critical of him and says she feels sorry for him because he doesn't have many friends. She's suggested that next time she sees him I should definately come and maybe that'll mean he'll stop calling.