Why do people like to be in the way?

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  1. Quest

    Quest Liberty and Justice Staff Member Administrator

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    Seriously. When I was growing up, it seemed like the number one rule was "don't get in the way." Don't stand in doorways, don't block aisles, always be aware of your surroundings to make sure you won't be in anybody's way.

    Nobody else seems to abide by these rules. Take grocery shopping for instance. I'm a single man, so I'm generally only looking to pick up whatever I need that particular day. But on occasion when I do push a cart, I always defer to people without one, since they take up less space and can move faster. Isn't that what anybody would do? Nope. They use their carts like battering rams. Every time I go to the store I have to dodge people who want to run me over, because it's so important that they get to go first. And if they feel like stopping, they just park that cart wherever they want, not giving a fuck if they might be blocking someone else's path.

    Don't even get me started on driving. In heavy traffic when somebody is trying to pull out in front of you, you might think it's the polite thing to let them. Don't do it, because I guarantee they will be turning left at the earliest available opportunity and you won't be able to get around them.

    Is there just no hope for humanity? :brood:
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    Couldn't agree more.
    What really pisses me off is when someone is in your way, you say 'excuse me', then they apologise.
    The apology suggests they didn't know they were in the way.... how could you not know!!?! Your cart was fucking SIDEWAYS across the aisle!
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    I got trapped in a grocery store aisle for a few minutes last week. At one end was a family with a half dozen kids swarming around while the mother just gazed dead-eyed at the selection of canned tomatoes, and at the other end was a pair of women sporting those "can I speak to your manager" haircuts. They were apparently friends and decided to push both their carts long ways to catch up of apparently 30 fucking years of gossip.
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  4. Quest

    Quest Liberty and Justice Staff Member Administrator

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    I have nothing against slow people. I really don't. There's no reason to be in a hurry.

    But then why does it seem like they're always in a hurry to get in front of me, and then be slow? :mystery:
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    This is a topic near and dear to my heart. I have two theories. I believe it to be a little of both:

    1) We have no natural predators anymore. And very few people get good military training. So nothing teaches them to get out of places where they are in the way (read, bunched up and an easy target). People just have no situational awareness--and increasingly little consideration for anyone but themselves.

    2) (And this is more specific to traffic) People are basically herd animals. This is a military thing too. As a leader it is a constant struggle to keep humans from bunching up in a dangerous situation. In caveman days that probably worked. But in the days of machineguns, hand grenades, artillery shells, and air support, bunching up makes you an attractive mass casualty target. But yeah, we have a herd tendency, so when we're driving, cars behind us have a tendency to speed up until they're in our blind spot and then slow down to fucking camp where you can't see them. Or speed up when you're trying to pass in order to keep you in their blind spot and then slow down again once you're not in a position to get past them.
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    oldfella1962 light & lethal

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    people (whether in stores, traffic, office buildings, etcetera) do seem to be oblivious and apathetic these days, or maybe I just notice it more.
    Volpone touched on a good point, which is "situational awareness" which I take for granted, but now I am realizing many people are unaware of.
    That and a general "me first!" attitude and lack of patience in general. It's a fast paced and over stimulated world these days, and these behaviors are the inevitable result of that. Because many things are "instant" we expect everything to be, but that's biting us in the behind now.

    But yeah, that camping out in the blind spot in traffic (especially fast moving) has to be one of the stupidest habits ever. :jayzus: Anybody with any survival at all instincts would never do it. I never researched the statistics but I would think it has to be a fairly large percentage of accident causes.
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  7. Mrs. Albert

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    People are so slllloooooow! Slow to decide, slow moving, just....ugh. If you are not disabled or seriously old, there is no reason to spend that much time picking out some freaking cereal. This is not a life or death decision! :bang:
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    and why is it no matter what sectionof the grocery store I'm in there are eight other people picking JUST THAT EXACT TIME to also go there? :shakefist:
    Example: it's 9:30 PM and I need hamburger buns. There are only a few cars in the grocery store parking lot. The minute I try to get the buns there are suddenly people RIGHT FUCKING THERE and the rest of the store is empty! :shrug: And these fuckers are counting every sesame seed on the buns or something because they are moving like molasses in January! And yes, they do have their entire family of Energizer Bunny kids with them.
    Folks.....you have wheat, and you have white. BAM! You narrowed down the search right there, now move in for the kill and go with regular or sesame seed....game over! Get your buns and move out smartly, or failing that just move out.
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    I always assumed occupying other people's space was a power-play thing.
    I give them the serial-killer eyes, and they move most times.
    I keep a dog chain and a utility knife on me for the time it doesn't work.
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    If I'm going in or out of store or other place, and some people decide to have a conversation right in the doorway, I don't say anything, I just push through them. If they're too fucking stupid or ignorant to realize they're blocking the entry, fuck them. And almost every time they act like I'm the one who was the idiot. And if they don't move it acknowledge after the first excuse me, then they get a "Move it, fatass.", or something similar.
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    The fucker on his phone at the mac & cheez. IT'S FUCKING MAC & CHEEZ! GET THE KRAFT. If they trusted you to get the groceries, they'd better goddamn well not bitch about what you brought back. Otherwise they should fucking do it themself if they wanted the white cheddar JarJar Binks Kraft Mac & Cheez. Or the Annies. Or the Kroger. Get the fucking blue box of elbow macaroni and move on.
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    back before cell phones you were lucky to ever have a shopping list you gave to somebody come even remotely close to what you envisioned. :brood:
    Then again we didn't have a dozen versions of fucking Lucky Charms either! :lol:

    1975 - six pack of Coke? Good as done!
    2019 - Coke...cherry Coke....vanilla Coke....cinnamon Coke....blueberry/acacia Coke...caffeine free Coke....diet Coke....diet cherry coke....etc. etc. etc. :dizzy:
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    I question anyone's judgement or sanity who gets Kraft Macaroni and Cheese when Velveeta Shells and Cheese is right next to it on the same aisle. :bailey:
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    For boxed mac and cheese Trader Joe's is hard to beat.
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    is Trader Joe's the kind like Velveeta with the cheese in a squeeze packet ready-to-rock or like Kraft where you need milk and butter to mix the cheese powder? It's important!
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    Elwood I know what I'm about, son.

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    The thread can end here. I've known for decades that most people are utterly oblivious to the world around them. What I've learned with age is that it's a willful choice, which addresses the second part of your comment.
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    I agree 100% with everything said. People are just oblivious. I mean, I stop in a grocery store aisle for fifteen seconds to decide if I want wheat or rye bread, and suddenly that’s the only spot in the entire place anyone else wants to be. It’s maddening.
    Or the fucking mouth-breathing retards in the drive-thru, with their “I have a long complicated order that I should have come inside for but I’m a self-absorbed asshole so I’m gonna sit here for ten minutes clogging things up” bullshit. Bitch, it’s burgers fries and drink. IT’S NOT FUCKING COMPLICATED!!!!
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    Mrs. Albert demented estrogen monster

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    And what is up with people at the ATM? How is it I can get in and out in under a minute, yet every other person is there forEVER!?!
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    Next you're going to tell me there's something better than Spaghetti-Os. Animal.

    Re: Mrs A's ATM story: I treat a visit to the (drive-up) ATM like a potential mugging. I shut off the radio, lock the doors, and roll up the passenger side window. Once the transaction is done I grab card, cash, receipt, and peel out of there ASAP and organize everything further down--after making sure no one's followed me.
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    speaking of ATM's....one ATM I use (rarely) is not physically attacked to the bank, it's in it's own little building about the size of a small shack, about 20 meters away from the actual bank building.
    I circle the building in my car for a quick recon just to make sure nobody is hiding behind it before I use it. A lot of banks don't consider blind spots where they position their ATM's.

    Also if your car is parked quite a ways out in a store parking lot it's a good idea to never walk straight to your car. Come at your car from a bit of an angle (walk past your car from a distance in other words) then get in to make sure nobody is hiding behind it. Just crouching down and looking for feet doesn't cut it - they could be tucked behind a tire. Stay alert, stay alive!
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    -Saint James Mattis, USMC.
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    agree there's just no excuse for rudeness even in combat! :nono:
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    Mrs. Albert demented estrogen monster

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    :calli:

    But....but......:(

    It’s actually quite delicious once you add the 2 slices of kraft deluxe cheese to it. :yes:
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    You all sound like me! :O

    Yeah, I've stopped even trying to be considerate while driving. You want to change lanes in front of me? Fuck, no! Because EVERY time someone gets in front of me, they end up going slower than the rest of traffic in that lane, and there I am, stuck behind them.
    It's exactly what somebody up there said - if you're in such a hurry to cut in front of me, why are you going so fucking slow now???

    We also get a lot of people having 2-person conferences in doorways around the building here. Once a couple of guys were blocking the men's room and I pushed past. One guy asked what my hurry was. I said "I gotta PEE, man!" :/ Another time some guys were blocking the time clock at quitting time. I just nudged on past, but the one guy wouldn't budge and had to nudge harder (I was non-vocal at that point of the day). I clocked out and muttered excuse me as I left, and he called called me a sonofabitch as I walked away. Asshole.
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    I had the misfortune of being dragged to a Costco last weekend. Holy shit is that place the worst. Not only will people do what they can to block your way, especially in the book/snack area in the front near the check outs where everything is kinda tightly packed, they will actively ram their carts into you. Not caring, no empathy about it. Hell this one woman with a cart loaded with with wine screamed "get out of my way" after ramming into me in a deserted, super wide grocery aisle. What the fuck is it with that place bringing out the worst in people?
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    And why does no-one understand "keep right" in these places? You stay to the right so that you don't crash into each other or perform that awkward Alphonse/Gaston dance. I walk down the right of the aisle. Don't walk down the left and then expect me to move out of your way.
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    I had to pick up some adult moist wipes a few weeks ago (Look, I'm 62). In the entire aisle there was only one other guy. He was looking thru the adult diapers like he was trying to choose for the first time, and he was blocking the wipes. My wife figured we should wait until he was done, since he was apparently much worse off than me. The guy took so long I finally just went over and excused myself politely, and reached past him for a pack. I probably embarrassed him, but, fuck, it's not like I'm not embarrassed too.
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    This must be a cultural thing on America because all of us more or less get taught that we're special snowflakes.

    In Japan, it's understood that when taking the escalator, the left side is for those choosing to ride the whole way up or down and the right for those who want to walk. While I rarely shopped for food off-base, I dontd remember shopping carts being an issue. To be fair, however, carts were a lot smaller as people don't do the massive weekly load-ups like we do here.
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    Costco is truly the worst.

    I rarely use a cart because I almost always go there just to pick up one or two items (usually in the meat section) plus having no cart lets me go faster than the rest of the traffic.

    The rest of the people with those big-ass carts go so slow I look like a motorcycle zipping between 18-wheelers.
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    they don't do the massive weekly shopping because refrigerators & kitchens are smaller. A lot of Europe is like that too especially in cities where apartment living is the norm.
    I stopped doing a weekly shopping trip because with just my wife and I food can go stale or bad, so we shop on an "as needed" basis for the most part. I have a neighborhood food-only Walmart on the way home from work (and it's on the right versus left side of the road so I can get in and out without getting in a wreck) so it's a no-brainer to stop there nearly every day. I know the layout of the store like the back of my hand, so it's very efficient for me.