Okay, so I like this nice girl, but I don't know if I should ask her out or not. See, I know her brother (Not that well) through another friend. Do you think she's now off limits?
AdaptationNation agrees: How does she feel? Have you tried any flirting? No. I'm EXTREMELY inexperienced in this stuff. Ya gotta understand, I'm just this kid who's never had a girlfriend in his life. Never gone on a date, nuthin.
Just because you know the brother doesn't put the girl off limits. If the brother knows you however ....
If there are any situations in which you have opportunities to chat with the girl I would suggest seeing if there is common ground between the both of you before making a go of a relationship. Definitely try taking her to dinner or something of that nature, a semi-private casual setting that you can both speak as freely as embarassment and management would allow.
And whatever you do, DON'T brag about any conquests around the brother unless you have a death wish!!!!
Go ahead. Give it a shot. The worst that can happen is that she isn't interested or you can in some way screw it up. But even if you screw it up, it will be a learning experience and over time you'll get better and better at interacting with girls. If you don't try, you can't screw up. But you won't learn anything either. And you sure as Hell can't succeed.
If you don't try you won't know what could or couldn't have been. I say that they aren't off limits until the brother has broken every last bone in your body.
Coffee and/or dinner isn't a bad thought for a first date. It's better then being yelled at a hobo that's for sure.
Ideally, you want to take her someplace you've been to before, but she hasn't. Someplace that will show her a little bit about who you are. Coffee is fine, but in case she doesn't drink coffee make sure there's some other choices on the menu. Dinner could be good, but it could also be bad, as a lot of people (females especially) have various food issues and/or are insecure about eating in front of people they don't know all that well. No reason to add to what is already a stressful situation. Likewise, if you just go for coffee you're pretty much staking the whole evening on the conversation. If things click, great, if not . . . so it might be a good idea to involve some kind of fun activity you can do together, that you know she likes. Not a movie though, save that for the second or third date. Ooh, idea: can you get bubble tea where you live? Ask her specifically if she'd like to go out for some bubble tea. It makes you look smart, sophisticated, and interested in cultures other than your own.
Crap. I dunno. Bowling? The zoo? How about mini-golf? Storm, Tex, and Ash seemed to have a good time at mini-golf.
there's nowhere to bowl or play mini golf on the bus route and the zoo sucks (And I think it also isn't on the bus route)
Movies are a sometimes a good bet. Is there one you know she'd like to see and hasn't yet? And if you have a "Movie and a Dinner" type theater, you can treat her and no one will see her eating - they'll be watching the movie! And after, you can go out for coffee and discuss the movie.
Whatever you do, do it quick. The sooner you go ahead and ask her out, the less you're going to think about it and psych yourself out.
