We haven't surpassed shit, deprive a "civilized" population of basic needs for a couple weeks and see how far we've gotten past our animal natures.
Ok, if the apocalypse is upon us, Jesus is back, Zombie, etc. we can all commence fucking anything for any reason. No doubt this Animal Planet orgy will surely save us. However, I just checked CNN and the apocalypse is not happening, and the poulation of the planet is still growing at a nice pace. So you're going to have to control your "urges" a little while longer like the rest of us.
"Ease" is not a prerequisite of being responsible for your choices. And what you do with your genitals is a choice.
Are American or British men in such a situation? Or are you just looking for scenarios that will fit your worldview and justify bad behavior? You are right when civilization collapses bad things happen (cue Rwanda, Somalia, etc.) killing, rape, etc. So should we volunteer to return to that state or strive for something that is better for us all. I, for one, am not planning on switching my citizenship to Rwanda any time soon so I can be in a more "natural" state.
You know, if he's basing his position on womens' reactions to him, he just might be saying exactly that.
Why do men always get tagged for this bullshit? If a man is cheating with a woman, does she not bear the same kind of blame?
Yep, and if it wasn't her he was fucking, it'd been some other woman. She'll get hers when she realizes the guy has no intention of leaving his wife and ruining his finances to be with her full-time, though.
Actually I highly doubt that. Novelty is arousing to both men and women. Women are probably more controlled because of the greater dangers associated with it. But as has been pointed out men have to cheat with a woman. Sidenote: I do blame porn for ruining some men as lovers. Please note, porn is pretty damn horrible at showing what really gets women off. Happily, not all men have fallen victim. My current question is why? It seems that some men are far more vulnerable to it than others. Now that is a more reasonable question than this losers study. Clearly there is variation among men, what makes some men more prone to cheat.
I could present you with a vault of information about the problems with how understanding female arousal and sexuality has pretty much been failed by modern research but no doubt you are the expert, a regular Kinsey you are.
It's amazing how many women don't figure this out until after wasting years. One of my old co-workers started dating a guy who claimed to be single, then when she noticed some stuff he claimed he was married but separated, then it was ok I'm married but I'm getting a divorce, then I want to get a divorce but can't afford it... This went on for years, he never left his wife, but she got pregnant and was crying about how mean his wife is for not letting him divorce her (as if; either person can file so obviously he didn't want to either). I got labeled the bad guy when I told her to please stop bitching about her married ex to me, that she knew he was married but stayed with him anyway, didn't use protection (I honestly think she got knocked up on purpose believing that would finally make him leave his wife), that everyone told her to leave him for years, so she has no one to blame but herself. I mean WTF? It's like these women think there is no other man out there who would want them so they have to put up with an obvious douche bag. My take is she's an idiot and got what she deserved. Too bad too since she was hot if emotional insecure.
That is exactly what it is like. That's what they believe and men who want to do something like that are typically very good at finding women who believe that. Interestingly, many of these women are very attractive precisely because of a focus on their sexuality and looks as the only reason they can be loved. It can be cured. "I'm not only a Therapist, I'm also a Client" - Vandygoddess, President of the Bad Relationship Decisions Club
Good Lord dude. Where have you been for the past thousand years? Why do men get tagged for this bullshit? Men are never tagged for this bullshit. A guy sleeps around, it's high fives all around. A woman sleeps around, and she's a dirty dirty whore.
Men who have not fallen victim recognize that pornos are not "how tos" and, I'll guess, have also figured out that there's someone else in bed with them who should share in the pleasure. I would also not discount the possibility that they enjoy the emotional dimension to sex that is nearly always missing in porn. That's not to say that an occasional evening of hair pulling and the senseless collision of flesh isn't enjoyable as a diversion, or a little "spice", but it shouldn't be standard fare. You're right: Just like most other modern entertainment, porn can breed unrealistic expectations in the undiscriminating consumer. What makes some men more prone to cheat? Lack of character, poor self-control, self-centeredness, low self-esteem, and fear of intimacy and committment. All of that biological imperative horseshit seeks to explain away controlable character issues in such a way as to make assholes feel better about themselves. You're right to scoff...
It's hard to take the moral high ground after a facebook post like that. Hopefully she doesn't have her family on her facebook account. DOH!
Someone once pointed out that whole "I can change a bad boy" mentality is probably one of the biggest selling points of the Twilight books. Women get off thinking a man will act like a completely different person just for them...which is why it's harder for nice guys to get chicks before age 25. A nice guy is nice to everyone and there's nothing special about that. Except that the "Bad boys" know how to turn if off long enough to get a girl in the sack. And just like the nice guy treats everyone the same, so does the asshole, after the novelty wears off. The whole three month rule is a good one to follow.
No, because the woman is in loooooooooooooooovvvvvvvvvvvve. Variations are "the heart wants what the heart wants." In other words "falling in love" is the catchall excuse for your behavior, like being drunk. You put your hand through a window sober and you're an idiot. Do it drunk, and people understand. So if a woman stabs her sister in the back and steals her husband, it's okay because she was "in love." The husband is evil because he was "thinking with his cock." Now let's put a twist on it: married woman cheats, it's because her husband wasn't "meeting her needs", the selfish bastard. At the end of the day, I think it's all hilarious. I honestly can't get wrapped around the axle over infidelity because I've seen and experienced so much of it, and it's just part of human behavior. So here is my advice: Men - don't get upset, that pussy isn't going to break. Women - don't get upset, your pussy isn't gold. Hmmm.....add "infinite wisdom" to my many attributes!
