A quote about Wordforge

I was just reading an article about a woman named Alexis Sharkey who was found dead in Texas. Don't know anything about her, or why she died (at the time the article was written, that wasn't known yet), but the article included a post she had made on Instagram that I think applies very much to Wordforge:

"When people are rude to you, they reveal who they are, not who you are. Don't take it personally."

Go f**k yourself.

Thank you. I was getting worried there that no one would come up with the obvious reply. I was beginning to think: "What has Wordforge come to?"

That's the WF way

This is the way.

I'm good then, I've never been rude to any of you dumb motherfuckers.

Did you just fart?

Well, no. You are just stating facts, not making judgments about people. It's not rude if it's objective truth, right? I'm sure even an ugly, ill-informed, disagreeable moronic fool like you can see that. (It could be worse. You could be from Ohio...)

Or France.

I know lots of people from France, but I have not had much luck with getting them to post on Wordforge.

One (my son) did for a while, but hasn't posted in at least ten years, maybe fifteen. A few others lurked for a while, but the problem is that people from France tend to speak French, and there aren't more than a handful of us on Wordforge who can converse easily in French...

"When people are rude to you, they reveal who they are, not who you are. Don't take it personally."

/thread

Not necessarily the end of the thread. There are other nice quotes that could be added to that, such as:

"It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice."

Don't know who said it, but I like it.

I don’t agree with the OP quote. People here constantly lob personal attacks against me and somehow I’m not supposed to take it personally?

If they're true, they apply to you personally.

If they're not true, they don't apply to you personally.

So are they true or not?

What does it matter if they are true, they're still personal attacks.

"Personal attacks" still doesn't require me to take them personally.

When you call my posts "dumb" because you disagree, I don't take that personally, because I don't think your evaluation is true or meaningful. That's why you posting "dumb" all over the board doesn't mean much. As the opening post in this thread says, it simply says something about you, not about the posts in question.

Why can't you take that same approach?

For what it's worth my rudeness isn't personal, it's strictly business.

I only pound on you for the dumb ideas that come out of your face.
I don't go after your family members, or your pets, or your bum wiping technique.

If your identity is wrapped up in your political opinions, or your preferred presidential candidates, or your media tastes, then that's just fucking sad.
Sad, but it's all on you, and doesn't put me on the hook to handle you with kid gloves.

FF's laments actually bring up a very important point here, that applies to everyone: when you let others determine what you are worth, by what they say about you, you become a slave to the whims of those about you. A person's worth is in their honour, not in the opinions of others.

If you are honourable, and others mock you or belittle you or insult you, then that only says something about them, not about you, as the opening quote put it. But if you aren't honourable, then those mockeries and insults are true, and that is what makes you a lesser person. Not that others say them, but that they really are a reflection of what you are.

If more people were concerned about being honourable, instead of caring what others say about them, the world would certainly be a much better place.

That's doubly-funny because it's from a movie that, according to FF, raped our collective childhood.

Qapla'!

Really because I seem to remember being called a misogynist, incel, Nazi, etc, etc.

Not once have I eve said that, liar. I liked the movie, but I could do without it if it meant jettisoning the entire sequel trilogy.

Um, yeah, that's the consequence of your awful political takes.
If you don't like those words, stop sharing opinions with misogynists, incels, and Nazis.
Cuz you do.

What, am I supposed to be neutral about that shit?
"Oh, wow, you've expressed your misogynist fascism so eloquently! You're views are a poison that kills people, but points for arguing so well on behalf of your position! Group hug, everyone!".

Please.

Nazi says we should lower taxes, I also think we should lower taxes, doesn't equal me being a Nazi just because I happened to agree with one thing the Nazi said. Nazi says White Power! I'm not going to agree and cheer him on.

No, but Nazi saying "Mary Sue! Mary Sue!", for.. EVERY. SINGLE. FUCKING. FEMALE. PROTANGOIST. EVER. And I'm supposed to buy it's not a misogyny dog-whistle after the 100th time?
Nope.
No Bueno.
Sell bullshit to the neighbors, I ain't buying.

I'm not saying Mary Sue for every female protagonist ever.

Word of advice: Pick your battles. Make a list of the issues that are important to you in the order that they're important. Then understand that you're part of a much larger picture of (A) political issues; (B) pop culture issues; (C) other. Lastly, understand that how ever brilliant you believe your argument to be, there will be others on the other side(s) who - rightly or wrongly - believe the same.

Go Vulcan. Argue the issues, without emotion. Alternatively, accept the fact that you're going to be emotionally slammed for your emotional opinions. You make the decision. That's where you take control.