I am probably the world's worst gift giver. I lack any ability to think of things interesting or unique. Much of the time, this doesn't matter. My wife is a great gift giver, I sign on to the card and that's that. We tend not to give each other much at Christmas (focus on the kids instead), birthdays, or anniversaries, but our tenth is coming up, and I feel something a bit more special is called for. We have some nice plans for the evening -- a very fancy restaurant (jacket required) in DC (in-laws to baby sit), plus a week's vacation camping and touring with our children. So, basically, I expect a nice time, but I also want to give my wife something. Ideas?
What is she into? What does she need? What does she like? Music? Hobbies? Give us something to work with here. Flowers and chocolate work a lot of the time. Especially after a great dinner.
You mean, there isn't some magic one size fits all gift to please all women? Okay, let's see. I don't want to get her something she needs because then it isn't so special. Plus, if we need something, we usually just get it. Music: Nora Jones, Joni Mitchel, Enya, Paul Simon.... Books: Toni Morrison, Alice Walker, John Irving, AA Milne.... Artwork: black and white photographs I don't know where any of that goes. Basically, I think I want to give her something that says, "I think you are sexy, a beautiful wife and mother, and I love you completely." Would a card work?
A special edition of any of that stuff you listed would be good. Anything that says you went out of your normal routine for her is always a good call. http://cgi.ebay.com/HOUSE-at-POOH-C...goryZ377QQrdZ1QQssPageNameZWD1VQQcmdZViewItem http://cgi.ebay.com/Sneezles-other-...ryZ29223QQrdZ1QQssPageNameZWD1VQQcmdZViewItem http://cgi.ebay.com/Set-of-4-Vintag...ryZ29223QQrdZ1QQssPageNameZWD1VQQcmdZViewItem As a search for one subject yielded.
Has she mentioned anything recently that she says she wants but hasn't bought herself? That's usually how I work out what I'm going to buy people. You can always take that as a starting point and work from there.
Our anniversary last weekend was nothing more than a nice hotel and a 2.5 hour dinner at a nice restaraunt. For Valentines I got her a lapdance from a nice brunette. But that doesn't work for everybody.
"Is that what I am to you? A f**king maid?!?" <- How good relationships go very bad, despite a guy's best intentions.
I'm a great gift-giver because I have a knack for remembering things my wife says she wants throughout the year, but she won't go buy for herself. She'll forget she even wanted it until she opens the package. Anything like that with your wife? Does your wife have an iPod or other MP3 player? If not, that's another good option. Last Valentine's day, I got my wife a Nano and preloaded it with a bunch of romantic songs that she/we like. Big, big hit. Her birthday present was a laptop.
I don't need a reason to give her sex, though something to stimulate her giving it to me would be good, I suppose. I'm not giving her another diamond. She has a big rock on her finger and two for her ears. I won't buy into the DeBeers gimickry. I've placed a bid on e-bay for a first edition Winnie the Pooh, signed by AA Milne. If I get that, I think it will be a homerun.
I thought good relationships went bad b/c of Jelly? All I want to know is if we have any Jelly? I don't care. I don't, I don't even like Jelly.
Seems like you're doing fine with the pooh thing, and you sidestepped the 'useful gift' trap, so you can't be as bad as you say.
