No release valve

Sometimes there's no release valve for frustration and anger. What the fuck am I supposed to do.

It's called getting drunk and/or masturbating.

Don't share it here unless you want to stir up the baboons.

FYI, the odds are decent that this is a backdoor attempt to gain Blue Room access. He asked for it right after signing up and got denied. But if one of his own threads gets moved there...

It's nothing that salacious. Just need to learn coping skills.

Play a video game

That's an interesting theory. Not true, but plausible. It seems like I've forgotten how to Internet the last few months.

Are you on FB? Do you trust your "friends"?

Just get a life. Join a social club or adult sports team, look at going on a group hike on Meetup.com, and try match.com to get yourself a date. It isn't as hard as some people pretend.

There are a million things to do in any decent city so it doesn't matter if it is a cooking class or a pottery group or trying to find antiques at garage or estate sales. Just get off the damn computer and go out into the real world where you will interact with real people.

Says the guy whose hobbies include "trolling liberals" and "hating on brown people."

Cue badly spelled diatribe in five, four, three...

I only have a few friends on my Facebook from high school. Not a particularly social person.

Getting a life seems a bit excessive. I just have to use the punching bag at the Y more.

where do you live? Bow hunting is a good hobby. Being out in nature is very relaxing, and bow hunting (for deer anyway) is very much a "solo" hobby with very little human interaction, thus it's perfect for me. I have hearing loss and I get sick of not being able to hear what people are saying - of course animals & birds don't say shit, at least not anything directed at me. I see all kinds of wildlife that I don't shoot of course, just observe - fox, raccoon, turkey, coyote, turtles, squirrels, occasional stray dogs & cats, but of course mostly deer more than any other species because they are the most common around here.

No joke: A few times in my life I've woken up depressed and suicidal, then later it turned out I was just wicked constipated. Perhaps you need to take a dump the size of your arm?

PSA: Your friends aren't the issue on Facebook; Facebook is the issue. Do not trust Facebook with any sensitive information, no matter which users you think you are addressing.

These are some great coping skills I'm picking up here.

Serious question: What do you enjoy? What makes you happy? Do some of that, assuming it's not extremely illegal. Listen to your favourite music. Eat some of your favourite food. Treat yourself.

Work at underreacting.

It seems to work for you daily on wordforge...

You don't need to "release" frustration and anger. A fire eventually goes out if you don't give it oxygen and fuel.

It's a lovely little platitude but it's horse shit. Dealing with feelings is important, and releasing them is a healthy thing to do (if done in a healthy way). What should I tell my kid when she gets older? Just relax when you're angry and frustrated, and everything will be okay eventually?

I'll eat meat with the best of 'em, but I'm not killing it myself. Total hypocrite on that one.

Yes. Because releasing your feelings is what gives them substance, makes them "matter". Nor is there anything magical or healthy about releasing feelings.

Not everything in life needs to be "dealt with".

And what do you do with those feelings?

There's nothing magical about it, but there's something very unhealthy about repressing feelings. There's something AA has introduced into our culture that is absolute bullshit: "Fake it 'til You Make It.' If you're saying I should "actively work to alter the mindset that leads to problematic frustration and anger," I think that's fine. But when you change the way you react to things (either with coping skills, DBT, whatever) you're not repressing the bothersome, problematic feelings. You're dealing with them in a different way.

Why do you say that? I repress my feelings every day about how I feel about almost everyone on Wordforge and I don't think it has been unhealthy.

Let them die. Anger is hard to maintain for a long period if you don't "nurture" it by expressing it. Keep it in the shadows. Most things won't grow if not exposed to the light of day.