If it's in your head, it's hypothetically a step closer to being reality than if otherwise, and it might come out in other ways. Also, there's a difference between someone having a generic fantasy (rape or otherwise) and a fantasy about a specific person. If I were on the market, I would not mind dating a woman who has a fantasy about pegging a generic guy, but I'd be a lot more uncomfortable if she had a fantasy about pegging me.
What Raoul said, mostly. Most fantasy, it's playful stuff. Whips, chains, etc. Everyone likes to be a little naughty sometimes. What I'm bothered by is the more extreme stuff. The brutal stuff. The man who watches Dr. melfi get raped on "The Sopranos" and gets an erection. To me, that isn't a normal guy. That's someone with psychological problems.
I suspect lots and lots of people have them but are smart enough not to discuss it. Take for example Yahoo Chat Rooms. Back in the day when I used to go to the Star Wars chat room and it's predecessor user created version, a perusal of the rooms available would usually show oodles of sexually based rooms...some of the most populated would be Incest..tens of thousands of people in hundreds of rooms, Rape, Furries, beastiality...every fetish imaginable. You can't know what's in people's heads...so I don't worry about it. I would much prefer some guy to imagine raping me than to actually do it. And I do not believe a person's fantasies means they are more apt to perpetrate that activity. Like I said before, many fantasies I've had I would never do nor feel more likely to do because I fantasized it.
No. fucking. way. full. stop. What kind of fucked up individual deems it important to do or even fantasize such a thing to feel all powerful and whatever fucked up else they get out of it. I am of the opinion rapists should be casterated and fed their testicles just prior to throwing Old Sparky's switch to see if they fry first or choke on their own gonads.
My, the judgementalism is gettin' deep in here. (moves to the Libertarian position) If people like a bit of roughness, that's their choice. Rosencaboose, the market for scarlet letters died a long time ago and the stocks are used for fun these days. Get over yourselves.
Sometimes a woman just has to be shown how much you want her before she really appreciates your love. Sometimes, one person can consent for two if they have enough love in their heart.
I met a person recently that if he even heard of rape, or molestation in passing would start destroying a small village due to anger. I find that everyone has their own sexual deviancy. Although they usually keep it hidden until they find a suitable partner to indulge it in with. I agree in the fact that it's mostly a power struggle for some. For one individual being on a higher pedestal than another can be all it takes to make them grin from ear to ear. For a small portion it's mostly play and for another section of people it revolves around psychological issues of previous experiences that at one point was a traumatic experience. It's got more of a pull on a person when they've witnessed and dated an individual who became obsessed with asphyxiation.
This post is rather difficult for a Brit to decode, since over here, 'bonk' means 'have sex with'. You've basically said he masturbated over her head, then grabbed her hair and dragged her back to the cave.
Hey, I'm just going by experience. Half of my -- oh let's call them "dalliances" -- with ladies have begun with them saying things like "I don't think so" and "no" and "get out!" and "who are you?" and "what have you done to my husband?!!" and "oh my god is that a knife?!!!" and "what was in my drin.....?" But they all ended well. Well enough.
I can't say it's a fantasy I've ever had and not one I fully understand, but if it doesn't hurt anyone who am I to judge.
Damnit! Finishing that rep comment: "I think he meant HIT her over the head and knock her unconscious." But your version of it is better because it makes me go " "
Anyone here ever watch Hentai Anime (or Japanese Animated Porn) before? Forced abduction seems to be the basis for their entire industry. As for myself, I can only have fun if she is. If she isn't enjoying herself, then I can't either. Back in my military days, I have known women that actually wanted forceful men and felt that the "gentle" ones were too soft or weak for them. These women simply couldn't be satisfied unless they literally had their clothes ripped off, thrown on their backs, and banged mercilessly until they were left in a daze covered in passionate sweat. Any man that could not "take control" of them like this were actually considered "whimps"
In a related topic, a question for the ladies: Who here has been a naughty girl? Who here needs a...spanking? A similar situation--surrendering authority, being something you can't be in day-to-day life.
LMAO. One of my nicknames from my ruggers is "Naughty." And spankings are dandy, if they aren't of the bruising kind.
There is a BIG difference between wanting to have sex with a forceful man and being forced to have unwanted sex with a unwanted man. I can sympathize with the women you mentioned, and if you think about it, it makes sense that they would enjoy that because the women actually are endowed with a sense of empowerment. Think about it: A man wants you SO MUCH that he positively rips your clothing from your body...you get him so hot and bothered that he can't resist simply having you right now and then. He is helpless to the desire that you inspire in him. You, in all your amazing womanliness, reduce him from civilized human being to a primal fucking machine. Now, these are women that WANT to be screwed in this manner, therefore, it's not rape in the least. And I also am of the mind that rapists should have their balls removed and fed to them. But the hottest experience I've ever had was when my first boyfriend in high school literally rushed towards me, pinned me against a wall, and kissed me...hard. I was extremely turned on. I felt irresistable. It was amazing, and I haven't had another experience that parallels it yet. I was definitely more than okay with him doing that. I think he knew by then that I would be; if he didn't, then that would have inappropriate, even if I had wound up enjoying it anyway. One of my (much) less pleasant experiences happened my freshman year of college and involved a guy pulling on my hair...it wasn't an accident: He grabbed a fistful of it and yanked my head back. It hurt. A lot. He said "Do you like that?" after the fact, and I said "No, and now I'm all done." The question he asked was not a rhetorical one...he didn't know whether I would enjoy it or not and he did it anyway. Guys who want to be forceful should ONLY be forceful when they know their partner wants them to be forceful, too.
I never recognized the strength of the word "rape" as women eventually come around to the inner desire they deny in public. Simply, it's a matter of wearing away their barriers.
I am going to state clearly that under no circumstances other than by prior consent, is it ever OK to continue to persue the matter when someone says no. No breaking down initial resistance is wrong. Charming them over a long period is one thing (IE trying to sleep with a reluctant SO, being rebuffed, and trying again later) But being too persistent in a single event is WRONG. That said, there is definitely an allure to having, or giving up, sexual dominance. Dominance in general actually. For example, while I dont have rape fantasies (I think being raped is too horrifying to imagine, and more likely than a submissive bottom like me raping anyone) I do often dream (and daydream) about a really hot jock (I have a sexual thing for jocks for some reason) bending me over and having his way with me... I get off on being man-handled and physically dominated.
*Looks down at own noodle arms and pot belly* Oh phew! Oh thank god! I thought Herp was in love with me! Phew! Jesus! *Eats more doritos*
I heard if you ask an undercover cop, especially a fake hooker, if they're a cop, they legally have to admit it.
