Went over to my sister's house, she's making the turkey and the stuffing. I made the potatoes, sweet potatoes, cranberries, and green beans. Currently we're plinking at cans with a BB rifle in the backyard with beers. This morning slept in a little, made some breakfast, made the side dishes while watching F is for Family on Netflix and sent some Happy Thanksgiving texts to some people. Other than a pretty quiet relaxing day.
I guess I will reply on what was this years thanksgiving. My mother invited an older gay guy from her community to dinner because his mother had passed and he was not going to see any of his family. I brought my grandmother over. We are in the process of moving her into more supervised care because she is really going downhill mentally. I saw her on friday because I check in on her and she was telling me that the guy who took her to her son's house on thanksgiving said he was going to come by but he never showed up on friday, and we agreed he was so irresponsible and unreliable. It is a lot better than arguing with her and making her feel worse about things. But, she was cool with Mitchel being there and she had her dinner and played with the great grandaughter. My grandfather ended up getting angry with mom/his daughter when she went to pick him up from the old age home. He got mad because he did not want to bathe or change his pants and was living in his own piss as alzheimers patients tend to do. So mom left him there. Which meant she was pissed, but she did cover it well. There will be none of the cursing screaming mom I know in front of the grandchild. So I started drinking and took cover with the neice and called mitchel in with me. We had fun playing with the colored pens and making interesting looking turkeys while lobbing gay comments over her head. My mom was mad because my sister had to leave early for second dinner with the in-laws who could not make it up because the mother in law is also dropping into dementia, age, and is recovering from multiple broken bones this year because her dogs dragged her. Her romantic interest has either passed or is really close so he is with his family. It really just made sense for their family to do their thing together instead of making the trip up to where this part lives. My mom felt bothered because she wanted more, and my sister was not having it. Of course katie kaboom (AKA my sister) had her own stresses which we were all trying to keep a lid on. I was sad to see it end so soon myself because it was doing good. It was not going to end in the eruption of my grandparents because they got too drunk and the politics spark hit the alcohol vapors. We have kinduv calmed my mother down which helps. The kids are the best blessing, but my sister still erupts because the kids are being kids and she wants picture perfect. But she has to live with the kids so I am sure there was something done before getting there that stressed her out. She cannot get rid of them for any time, so that is going to be at least another decade of potential nuclear explosion. I used to think some of the stress would die down when certain instigators were no longer alive or capable, but I would be wrong. The only difference is I do not have to see the eruptions anymore. I know they are there because I can see the tectonic fractures and the venting, but I do not have anyone to fight with at home. So I can come here and write my long diatribes without interruption. I think that is something I am thankful for.
