The Guiliani name redeemed by Rudy's daughter

Rincewiend · Mar 16, 2021

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everything but uniamorous all relationships are complex, confusing, and annoying places.
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FTFY

Which is why I don't do "relationships."
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I was thinking "uniamorous" meant "love for one self," but that would be "autoamory."

Anyway, I'm definitely feeling that sentiment. I mean, I enjoy interacting with people romantically and sexually, but I have no desire to be in prescriptive relationship structures. In my experience, if someone has goals in mind for a relationship with me, they care about those goals far more than they do me; I'm a means to an end, and they don't care about me beyond that.

I used to call myself a relationship anarchist, but I stopped using that label because everyone else I've encountered who uses that label is a vile human being. I interpreted the idea behind RA to be "keep things fluid, and go with what works for you and others involved," while it seems everyone else seems to think RA means: "My personal autonomy is the only thing that's important, and must be maintained at all costs. Your personal autonomy is fine as long as it doesn't interfere with mine. If it does, you're wrong and an asshole and should do what I want you to do, because, reasons."
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I think of autoamory as being in love with my car. I do love my car, but I do not want to fuck it. I am also not in love with my car. I like that it is there and has utility and it is mine.....Anyway, uniamoros seems to be a better term as I know people in love with their cars. Really the best times of sex for me have overwhelmingly been with myself. The only thing that sometimes makes it is the computer, but we will save that for another time.

I think of myself as a bird on the wind. Sure, i will land here and there, but I do not want to stay here or there permanently. I can fly next to someone for a while, or land and be around someone for a while, but I don't respect a person who would cut themselves off for my goals and desires, and I am not going to cut off my goals and desires for someone else. The closest I have come to wanting to be with someone is secure roommates. That is really just due to capitalism making it more convenient to share household expenses. I also do not want to be someone else's reason for living and existing. The whole idea about not being whole without someone else does not fit with my philosophy. I can understand working together in a partnership because you get more working together, but that means you can live alone also. I do not want to be emotionally dependent on someone, or for someone to be emotionally dependent on me. I have had people say they really need me in their lives and that is the quickest way to make me not respect you. I am sure as fuck not going to be in a healthy relationship with someone I do not respect.

Other people's mileage may vary on all of that. I should also say it is probably a self fulfilling prophecy that I always get left alone because people have their lives to live. That hurts sometimes, but it always seems to be for the best when a person goes their way and lives for themselves and not me.
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Rimjob Bob · May 7, 2021

Will Smith's daughter comes out publicly as polyamorous (BBC)

Cheers to another celebrity daughter moving the ball forward on modern relationships and sexual practices.

Ten Lubak · May 7, 2021

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