How different in real life are you from your online 'persona'?

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  1. $corp

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    Same here.
     
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    What you see is what you get. :shakes: and yes I do shake in rl :shakes:
     
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    Depends on what is the persona.

    I'm here what I am highly buzzed in real life. I am not my sober self. Sober, I realize most people don't really care about being accurate, so I don't bother to correct them, let them revel in their ignorance. Sober I realize most of the things I find interesting, the general population doesn't, so I don't bother to share them. Sober I am very much a socially conscientious person that has no beef with anyone unless they are intentionally assholes (I've actually brought up the fact that I usually end up on teams with A-holes, which is bullshit b/c every school I am top and I have my CIB [Not just saying that, but being as 9th is the only Tactical MISO Battalion, it actually matters]) and the reply I get is that I can get along with anyone and was placed there for the good of the Det. Here and when I'm drunk I really don't give a shit about how other's see me. Sober, multiple people have told me I'm one of the most easy going and relaxed person they've met, online and intoxicated you can go fuck yourself.

    So am I fake online? Is this a persona?
     
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  5. The Exception

    The Exception The One Who Will Be Administrator Super Moderator

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    I'm pretty much the same here as I am amongst my friends, that is to say, I'm at my most real. When I have to go to work or family functions I can't be myself, because no one is really interested in talking "big talk", it's usually all small talk. When the topics I like do come up, it's usually shallow analyses based in racism or religious ideology.

    With my friends, and here, I can talk about the world in a way that is, for the most part, far more conducive to interesting discussion. The one thing that is different in real life is that most people who I talk about such things with would see me as fiscally conservative.
     
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  6. Dayton Kitchens

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    I'm somewhat more restrained here than in real life because I don't want people to think I'm a jerk.
     
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  7. Bickendan

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    This -- and I'll add 'it depends who I'm with'.

    What topics and how I discuss them depends on who I'm with and where I am. Some friends I strictly talk music. Others the topic at hand can be very raunchy and dirty. Family and church I tend to censor myself, because of political or social disagreements. With some friends I cut loose, with others, I don't say much.

    Online it's fairly similar. Here I tend to be fairly straight-up; at Lonaf, I'm more laid back; at TK I could be fairly biting against some of the wannabes that would roll through. Facebook I tend to be fairly neutral -- I have a lot of family there.

    Some facets take more time and energy to do and require adopting a persona (such as my long running Luci troll over at TK). Others are mindless (some of my duals, for example).
     
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  8. RickDeckard

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    It's easier to say what you think on WF than it is offline, because there are no consequences. But I don't have a "persona".
     
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  9. RickDeckard

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    I think you have your priorities the wrong way round...
     
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    Much explains this post does.
     
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    Face to face, I am actually extremely talkative. I mean even more so Async if you can believe it. But the caveat is...only if I know the person or people I'm talking to very well. Which more or less explains why I have such a low post count, despite screwing around on this site since its inception.
     
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    I'm alot more bitchy, pushy, and over the top in real life. Here, I just make a statement and go on.
     
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    I think I'm the same, but others might not agree.
     
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  14. sandbagger

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    I'm an ass man IRL.
     
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    You're more talkative online than real life.
     
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  16. Talkahuano

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    IRL I'm a direct, blunt, slightly awkward sort of person. I always manage to make it clear that I'm decently smart even when I'm trying very hard not to.
    IRL I'm incredibly argumentative and I rarely pass up a good debate. I hate it when people bring up bullshit points and I hate it when people get things wrong.
    I say fuck every other sentence. I say shit and damn and hell and ass all the time. I have fun with imaginative curse words, like "cuntmuffin" and "cum guzzler ass monkey."

    Other than that... if you read my blog, that's me.
     
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  17. T'Bonz

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    Pretty much the same as I am online. I'm far too lazy to make up a personality and too damned old to need to puff myself up online. I'm a middle-aged lady of no special importance to anyone in the world but my family and friends and I'm cool with that!

    Over the years, I've met BBSers (including two from here), and while most of the women are similar to their online selves, most of the men are shy.

    There are some exceptions to this rule: Katie543 over at TrekBBS was very shy IRL compared to online; Jethro Elvis was exactly the same IRL as online, as was Async and Dennis Bailey; Neroon was much more talkative in real life than online.
     
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  18. Bickendan

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    I've met Jethro Elvis. Good assessment of him.
     
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    Why would I be any different? It's too damn hard to try and remember what you stand for if you change it everywhere you go.

    "Like it or leave it." I don't really give a shit.
     
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  20. Megatron

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    Am a 180 of what you see here.

    :tasvir:
     
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  21. Asyncritus

    Asyncritus Expert on everything

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    You mean ... it's your right arm you're missing? :shock:

    Kinda reminds me of the guy who was granted a wish by a genie and said, "Well, I'd give my right arm to be ambidextrous..."

     
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    No.

    I am the nicest, most relatable, friendliest and most respectful person you'll ever know.

    :)
     
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  23. Asyncritus

    Asyncritus Expert on everything

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    ^ Even more than Chuck? :unsure:



     
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  24. Megatron

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    Yup.
     
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  25. $corp

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    In real life, I seem to gain the trust of a lot of people, even total strangers - assuming I've been able to spend some time with them. I think it's because I don't say much, and only interject with questions about them every once in awhile. When I'm on dates, it's usually the girl who does most of the talking.

    I think in that way, it's similar to my online persona. People just trust me with things, and tell me a lot of stuff. ;)
     
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    I know where you're coming from. My girlfriend really likes that about me.
    Funny, too. Wouldn't really have thought of it until she told me -- and it makes me want to reinforce that aspect now that it's been pointed out.
     
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    How do you know Chuck isn't the king of all assholes in real life? like a Billy Bob Thornton character on steroids?
     
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    FTFY.:tasvir:
     
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    Nah I'm that both online and in the World.
     
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    IRL, people tend to notice the effects of Asperger's on my speech patterns...
     
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