I don't get this at all. My friend was never popular with the ladies. He finally found a girlfriend and got married. Right after he got married, women started coming out of the woodwork get him to date them. I don't understand this at all. And women who do this have the gall to complain about when men cheat on them when they're encouraging it? ????
Part of it is that once a man has a woman, other women will view him as a viable mate. It's like a resume. The other part is that women are competitive and catty, and they will merrily stab each other in the back in order to feel superior.
That plus a guy loses any air of desperation around himself when he finally ties on the ball and chain. That lack of desperation is like an aphrodisiac to girls.
Same is true about some men - they only see married women as desirable objects to pursue. And men are very competative. They just forget about the back stabbing - they just beat the hell out of the competition to prove to the women that they should be the to sire the kids.
Actually, the main reason that men will pursue married women is that most men like having sex with women that they have absolutely no responsibility for. A married woman gets pregnant, legally unless proven otherwise, her husband is assumed to be the father. The preference for having sex without any feeling of responsibility is why alot of men are willing to pay for sex with a butt ugly prostitute when they've got a hot looking girlfriend or wife.
I've never had sex with anyone other than my wife. I'm just making an observation. But that said I'm different from alot of men. I didn't have the socializing with women from the ages of 15 to 25 (in other words I did not date anyone ) where my experience level with being stimulated by frequent close contact with grew steadily.
Married women are hot....or so says my wife's boyfriend! But seriously folks....married woman are cool, because they aren't likely to "wig out" and spill the beans, lest they put themselves in the hot seat. Having said that, a few have went unstable and confessed all to their hubbies, upsetting the whole apple cart. I guess either way it's a gamble. But as for the original point, yes women prefer to fight over/share a good man rather than have a loser all to themselves. Wealth is not disributed equally. For every cad cheating with a mistress, there's a "nice guy" dating Rosie Palms. It's called basic primate behavior. Tina Turner had it right with "what's love got to do with it?"
Married men and attractive for the exact reason Marso stated: the stench of desperation has faded. However, that doesn't give a woman a good reason to go AFTER a married man...it just makes them perfectly wonderful for eye candy and certain masturbatory fantasies. What?
Even more attractive than a married man is a single man with NO sense of desperation about him. Unfortunately those men are usually gay. Or live in another country. Or are impossibly old. They are far and few between.
Actually, that reverses in the 30s. At that point a single man is a hot commodity, and single women are the ones that are beginning to reek of desperation. Especially if they are carting around a kid or three.
Vesper: "Am I going to have a problem with you, Bond?" Bond: "No. Don't worry. You're not my type." Vesper: "Smart?" Bond: "Single."
I always thought it was just that women hope they're hot enough to make you leave your wife. Just being married does not mean you're a good catch.
In my experience, I have told single guys to wear wedding rings in order to get better tips in the restaurant business. This is why....... Women are complex. Just a man on the street wistling at them is one thing but in their minds, a married man showing them attention is like BONUS. See... He has a women that he thought enough to marry but now he is showing... You attention which means he is willing to risk her because he thinks your that HOT! It is an ego thing. Whether it goes anywhere is anyones guess. Now married women being attrative to men.. ..I have only noticed that through youngerm, and I mean younger men. I have not noticed this in the 28+ catagory. Men above this age have to be REALLY infatuated before they involve themselves with a married woman. They tend to think moreso on the survival side of the equasion. They even tend to think, "this could be my wife and I would be devistated."
So much cynicism in this thread. Happy equals sexy. People in loving, stable relationships tend to be happy. Therefore they are more attractive than they were before.
