My parents think that kind of stuff is sick, a few of my friends think it's weird, but I think stuff like that is ok as long as the people in the relationship keep to themselves. I've met people who think it's a great idea. I was wondering where Wordforge stands on the issue. Green Room because I didn't want this to go down in flames. Discussion, please. Use your brains or GTFO.
To me, sex and love are very much intertwined in a relationship setting. Therefore, I will forbid her from sex with anyone else. FFM threesomes would be OK for me, but not because I want it. If I wanted a threesome, I'd much rather it be with two random strangers or a friends with benefits type scenario.
So long as all parties are adult humans of sound mind, I've got no beef with it. Don't know if it's right for me though.
The chances of me convincing one girl to get nekkid and do the jiggly are pretty remote. The chances of convincing two is getting towards the 'highly unlikely' end of the spectrum. I'd label that scenario as 'dont have to decide either way'
That's about my take on the situation too. Can't say I know of any polygamous relationships lasting very long, seems additional partners negate any sort of relationship.
Consenting adults are none of my concern. As for the topic at hand, we steer clear of it because we've got enough marriage issues to deal with without the added dynamics of extra people. Those dynamics are saved for the weekends.
Wouldn't be an issue for me, largely because I'm the kind of guy that would really put the breaks on an orgy.
As a child of the 70s, I've never had a moral or philosophical problem with the concept. In practice, however, I've never seen a relationship survive it.
Fundie Mormons seem to make it work pretty well. YMMV. It's a choice thing. It either works for you or it doesn't. Not everything is for everybody.
That's a big concern I hear people mention. The counter-argument, of course, is that people end up with STDs in monogamous relationships when one person cheats. Still, when you can have three people cheating, or four people cheating, I imagine the amount of diseases that can spread is enormous.
A poly and a mono don't mix. But, as long as you are open and talking about it with concern for each other, it can work. But it is VERY difficult.
Having more than one wife would be problematic, at best. Boning different ladies at the same time sans relationship? That's different.
Ok Ok Ok... I'll make room for you; however you'll have to talk Flow into having 2 wives. I think he will say no.
Meh. While I think it's wrong, I'm not into telling other people how to live their lives. One of my friends did this. She fell in love and got married. At some point they decided they needed another "wife" in their marriage. She moved in, they worked and lived as married people....then hubby knocked up non-legal wife...it also turns out my friend can't have kids...quick as a wink he divorced her and married "wife" #2. The fact is, while three-ways sound sexy to some people....long term relationships are something else and are generally not built on sex. Could it work? Probably, if the people involved are very intelligent, scrupulously honest and very open with each other. This is going to be exceedingly hard to come by in dynamics of three or more just because of the nature of humans. All in all...a really bad idea.
Dunno about polygamous relationships, but I've seen polyamorous relationships work so long as they acknowledge that it's not a forever thing.
Oh, definitely not. If you've got each man snapping up several women, and the birthrate remains about even for genders, you quickly end up with a huge surplus of men who can't find wives. Some polygamous communites go so far as to run the young men out of town so they don't have to worry about competition. Not to mention that a limited amount of grandfathers in one area will eventually lead to more unintentional interbreeding among cousins.
