Are you judged...

Discussion in 'The Red Room' started by Sherlock Holmes, Nov 1, 2007.

  1. Sherlock Holmes

    Sherlock Holmes Resurrected

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    by people because of...


    your looks?

    the way you talk?

    what you wear?

    something else?
  2. Dan Leach

    Dan Leach Climbing Staff Member Moderator

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    Is anyone not?
  3. Sherlock Holmes

    Sherlock Holmes Resurrected

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    Answer the question I asked then I'll answer yours.
  4. Linda R.

    Linda R. Fresh Meat

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    Having spent most of my life being judged by my work, I've reached the stage where I'm judged by my age.
    Not really liking the change... :garamet:
  5. MiniBorg

    MiniBorg Bah Humbug

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    Of course I am, who isn't?
  6. Mrs. Albert

    Mrs. Albert demented estrogen monster

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    I don't really care about the people who judge me based on superficial things. The people who judge me based on my actions are the people whose opinions I value.
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  7. KamelReds

    KamelReds Bite the Curb!

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    Everybody is, but I can come up with a list for myself.

    People think I'm a huge stoner, because I'm really, really laid back. I say "yeah" weird, kinda like Bam Margera. Oh and I wear girl's jeans, so people think I'm gay and I have visible tattoos.

    Also, I'm very quiet when not around close friends, so people automatically assume I'm an asshole, which in this case of judging, they are right. Because, I don't like anyone really besides my close friends.

    I really don't care what people think, so, meh. They can go fuck themselves.
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  8. Ancalagon

    Ancalagon Scalawag Administrator Formerly Important

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    As fellow Mobilian Rich Boy so eloquently says in Get dat Paper “People underestimate me ‘cause I’m coming from Alabama.”
  9. enlisted person

    enlisted person Black Swan

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  10. JUSTLEE

    JUSTLEE The Ancient Starfighter

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    I get judged on so many things in so many ways it's hard to list them all. And usually it's the littlest things people get absolutely livid over. For example, my typing must be absolutely perfect at all times or I'm a monster worse than a child molester and am absolute scum. For some reason, spelling seems to be an indication of intelligence for some people, when it's not a real indication of intelligence, just skill. I believe but am uncertain that Einstein was a poor speller and had poor handwriting.

    There are many other small ways I'm judged as well. And usually the reaction is over the top and ten times worse than the small thing I'm judged for, which are often things I wouldn't judge other people on myself.

    And I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't. People often make demands on me that I be the way they want me to be for themselves, but nothing I do makes people happy,, no matter how hard I try. I i be myself it's no good and I'm a monster. If I try to be the way they want me to be It's no good and I'm a monster. They tell me that there are all kinds of rules that I have to follow and if i don't follow them then I'm a monster.

    But if I follow the rules they want me to follow I'm a monster. But many of them also don't follow the same rules they claim I have to follow but don't consider themselves to be monsters, only people that don't follow their rules.

    But then again, if I follow their rules then I'm somehow doing it wrong anyway and I'm a monster.

    But that's life and there's nothing I can do about but be myself anyway and if people just can't stand that then that's their fucking problem.

    Essentially it's like what Shrek says, I don't have a problem with the world, it's the world that has the problem with me.
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  11. Diacanu

    Diacanu Comicmike. Writer

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    Yeah, what she said.
    :)
  12. Forbin

    Forbin Do you feel fluffy, punk?

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    Here come da judge!
  13. Forbin

    Forbin Do you feel fluffy, punk?

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    I judge you based on your posting nekkid pictures of yourself, and I think you're a WONderful person :wub:

    ;)
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  14. Dan Leach

    Dan Leach Climbing Staff Member Moderator

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    yes, and everything else.
    You're gonna need to narrow this question down if you want sensible answers
  15. actormike

    actormike Okay, Connery...

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    I am silently judged and judging at all times.
  16. Lanzman

    Lanzman Vast, Cool and Unsympathetic Formerly Important

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    The "judgement" of others, who are irrelevant to begin with, are of no concern.
  17. Jeff Cooper Disciple

    Jeff Cooper Disciple You've gotta be shittin' me.

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    Yes, I am. As a native West-BY-GOD-Virginian, I'm automatically assumed to be stupid and inbred. I swear I met a woman in Hollywood who was surprised that I wore shoes. I have all my own teeth and noever slept with my sister and have running water and electricty and everything.
  18. Chris

    Chris Cosmic Horror

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    The important thing, is that my motto is "those people can be fucked".

    Unless I need something from them.
  19. Shirogayne

    Shirogayne Gay™ Formerly Important

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    Being black, the answer is pretty obvious.

    But if they don't want to get to know me from the outside, it's no skin off my nose.
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  20. Sherlock Holmes

    Sherlock Holmes Resurrected

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    Ok, I had a person stare at me while I was eating an apple as a snack at work. I saw her glancing at mea few times and every time I'd look out she'd pretend she wasn't looking. After I rung her up and set her on her way she leans in and says, "You really should think about a diet." Took all I could to smile, and say "oh, thank you. You have a good day."...
  21. garamet

    garamet "The whole world is watching."

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    Yeah, because obviously if you're overweight, you shouldn't eat anything at all, ever. :bang: Why is the world so full of busybodies? :mad:
  22. evenflow

    evenflow Lofty Administrator

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    Yep.
  23. Lethesoda

    Lethesoda Quixiotic

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    Of course. I take steps to avoid "judgemental" situations, and spend most of my time chasing said judges around with large wooden implements.
  24. actormike

    actormike Okay, Connery...

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    I'm glad we agree.
  25. Jeff Cooper Disciple

    Jeff Cooper Disciple You've gotta be shittin' me.

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    Me: "You should really think about not telling other people how to live before somone puts a boot in your ass, lady."
  26. Sherlock Holmes

    Sherlock Holmes Resurrected

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    See, I could never do that... I may think it, but I couldn't ever actually say that.
  27. Jeff Cooper Disciple

    Jeff Cooper Disciple You've gotta be shittin' me.

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    Start. It's very cathartic to tell people to fuck off when they actually have it coming.
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  28. Diacanu

    Diacanu Comicmike. Writer

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    I'd try to, but my anger would overwhelm my speech center, and I'd be like.

    "What the..?! That's so goddamn ru... listen lady.... :finger: :mad: NNG!!".
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  29. Robotech Master

    Robotech Master '

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    Everyone is judged, and everyone judges.
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  30. garamet

    garamet "The whole world is watching."

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    Then if she pulls that shit again, just give her a big grin and say in your nicest voice. "Yes? May I help you with something?" Keep smiling until she looks away.
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