Bad Roomie? :confuzzle:

On June 21st Chaos Descending agreed to let an acquaintance of mine stay with us. I had told her that she could stay in our home, free room and board, as long as she was working and saving for school or going to school. Then out of the blue the VA decided to finally operate on my right ankle on 31 July. The roomie agreed to help me while I was recovering.
She still has yet to get a job and even told me at one point that she wasn't going to work for McDonald's (the only place that would hire me after I was med boarded from the Army). She spends most of her time at the home belonging to the grandparents of the guy she is obsessed with. I understand that the elderly woman is ill, but she has a 20 something year old grandson living in her home for free! Chaos and I have even explained to the girl that the guy is still sleeping with his ex who is also living in that home for free!
She occasionally loads the dishwasher and will cook when I put my foot down, but her bathroom hadn't been cleaned since I did it the day before she moved in then my mom with a surgical incision in her wrist finally cleaned it! After I have explained to the girl that dirty dishes piled in both sinks is a huge problem to me she continues to do it. I even explained to her that I used to get my butt beat if I went to bed with dishes in the sink when I was younger!
I finally told her that there were just too many stress points for me and that she needed to find a home by the 21st of September. Later in the day I told her that if she had a job and was here actually helping that I wouldn't still send her away! She left for 3 days. Sean works and I am on crutches and only able to bear 5lbs on my right foot!
So much is stacking up! I am at my wits end and don't know what to do! What would you all do?

Point of clarification: McDonald's was the only place that would hire Rifle Spryte immediately after she got Med boarded out of the Army. She got a much better job not too long after that, and an even better job a few years later. She didn't stay as a Mickie D's flunkie.

She might like that too much!

Thank you for that P.O.C. I was also hired as a manager.

It's entirely possible that this would be right up her alley.

Kick her ass to the curb. Keep your Sept 21st deadline. She's freeloading, and she knows it. Taking advantage of someone isn't much of a way to be a friend.

I agree with Nautica!!!

If she's 18+, kick her out. Where she stays is her own damn problem. She's had many warnings to get her work done. If your ultimatum doesn't wake her up, it's her own fault when you kick her out.

If my own kids were over 18 (and one of them is) and acted that way, their asses would be booted out of my house.

And they know it.

Put her out on the corner. imp:

(We've GOT to have a pimp smilie, but I'm too lazy to look for it.)

Free room and board!? Quite generous of both of you, especially for an acquaintance. Yet as you now know, roommates are a pain in the neck. Even roommates paying rent are a hassle. Heck having company for more than three days blows. You did the right thing by kicking her out.

Later in the same day? Hmm, not exactly putting your foot down here.

First off, take care of yourself, you're going to want both of your feet in working order!

Secondly, just because you need help does not mean you need an acquaintance to live with you free of charge. Look to family and friends first and then to professional help. Be it a weekly maid service to clean up, or a neighborhood kid to mow the lawn, it will be cheaper than sponsoring an adult who has a history of not helping out.

Here's hoping for a quick recovery!

She is a 22 year old, so it wouldn't be like I am sending a defenseless teen out on the street. Thank you all for your attention and help!

Is she hawt? Does she swallow? (It's important!*)




* - (TM - Muad Dib)

She is pretty and well endowed. I don't know if she swallows...

Skin advises you hire a biker to kick her in the dick.

I've kicked roommates out for far less...like the time the bitch used a fork in a brand new frying pan and tossed it in the dishwasher, pretty much ruining it. I basically kicked her out because of a frying pan. It's one thing to be unemployed and still useful around the house, but if she won't do shit, punt the cunt.

Ask her and get back to me on that.

Her response, "A lady doesn't spit!"

OK, PM me a photo.

I cleaned cat shit from all over the guest bedroom floor yesterday and filled the bone dry water dish. The roommate left for the weekend and assured us that the cat was taken care of, but the litter box was so full the cat had no where to dump and bury!
When roomie finally came home I told her what happened and she said, "It wasn't like that when I left!" :rage: It took me 10 minutes to find a no kill shelter that was taking cats and we told her the thing had to go 7 weeks ago. I have hives all over my arms and my throat is swollen. I had to take a benedryl and my inhaler that I'm not supposed to need unless I am running outside. I am also going to slap a bitch.

Why do you continue to put up with this situation? Is the Sept 21st deadline still set? I stand by my previous "kick her ass to the curb" sentiment!

I have an honest question: Are you passive aggressive?

Yes, the 21st deadline stands. I asked her today if she has found a new place to live yet. Apostle, No. I am not passive aggressive, I am a doormat. I was raised to believe that it is my duty to help out my fellow man (human. No jokes, please). The folks forgot to add, "Don't let them abuse your kindness" to the lesson.

Ah. I too help out my fellow man. I learned from my dad to not let them abuse me, because he had many abuse his kindness.

I asked her if she has found a place to live. "Mmhmm," her only response. Six more days and I am feeling less and less bad about asking her to leave and better and better about her being gone. Thank you all for contributing to my peace of mind.

Be ready to have your locks changed. Based on what I've heard to this point, it wouldn't surprise me to hear that she actually DOESN'T have a new place, and won't willingly leave/tries to get you to extent her deadline.

Well, the cat went out the door today, or so I am told by my agents in the field.

Wow Rifle Spryte is a girl and is hooked up with Chaos? The things you learn outside the Red Room.

Tell you what, if she leaves the house at any point on the 21st, with plans to return, drag her shit outside, change the locks, and enjoy a nice cup of tea.

We need a :don'tletthedoorhityourassonthewayout: smilie.

If you really want to help her, kick her out.