Do you have any friends that are........

You and I would get along just fine. I can't stand the queeny types. And Enlisted, I'm your WF friend, remember?!?!? You'd better like me!

 

A lot of my friends are liberals (which can make some evening rather tetchy if the conversation goes to politics). And I have several gay friends as well (who are, coincidentally, all liberals). My two closest are republicans, though.

 

Yep.

:lethe:

He's great!
Smart, funny, great guy to be around, always cheers me up, always has something clever to say. Really smart, knows everything about pop culture and takes time to explain stuff to me when I don't know WTF he's talking about.


:lethe:

 

So, you're saying it's a choice?

 

Hmm, so femininity for a straight woman, and masculinity for a straight male is a choice?

 

One of my brothers is gay and chooses to act as queer as a 3 dollar bill, for he is a troll. My sister Dr. Lizardo is lesbian, and chooses to act like a burnt out medical researcher, for she is one.

 

I know one guy who takes it up the butt.

But he's not a friend, he's too goddamn dramatic to hang with us.

 

None that I am aware of.

 

"You have given too much Reputation in the last 24 Hours, try again later".

 

No gay friends that I know of.

Several gay coworkers, some of whom I like and respect a lot. The rest are little more than oxygen thieves.

Personally, I don't care for effeminate-acting men, gay or otherwise.

 

I know lots of gay people. One smells bad, but I don't think that's because he is gay. I think it is because he is a fat slob who never showers or washes his clothes.

 

Neither do I. S'probably why I didn't get along with the gay guys I knew in high school.

 

One of my best friends (female) is bi. I have one gay friend. I think of him and I think "glad there's someone around here who can appreciate the finer points of regular Nikon AF autofocus versus single-servo autofoucs AF-S, as well as commiserate about Nikon's lack of AF-S prime lenses."

 

Ummm... who cares???

 

One of my oldest and dearest friends came half-way out of the closet a few years ago. He's bi-sexual. I had suspected it for years and I'm glad he's finally comfortable with who he is. He always has been and forever shall be, my friend.

 

Does anyone watch the Sarah Silverman Program? Overall, I hate that fucking show, and the lame fart jokes that make up much of the show, but I love the gay couple in there. They both look and act like complete geeks that one would assume were hard up for girl secks.

 

Meh, I've always thought Volpone as more of an internet acquaintence than a friend.

 

Yeah. Most of my closest friends are gay. In fact my closest male friend was gay, and closest female friend (and ex-housemate) is a lesbian.

My gay male friend is anything *but* effeminate. (He did go to school in a dress one, but it was on a lark....mostly he's into computers, power-tools, and hockey.) His ex-bf was slightly effeminate. And one of his housemates was
a extremely effeminate, and he drove my friend crazy.

People often say to my friend, when they first find out he's gay, "Gee...you don't seem gay!"

Oddly enough, the most effeminate guy I know...who is literally limp-wristed, wears lots of rings, talks with a lisp, is into showtunes *bigtime*, and is (I shit you not) president of a Bangles fanclub...has always, violently, claimed to be totally straight.

But when I introduced him to my gay friend, first thing he said to me when we were alone is "Is it me, or is my gaydar going off!?"

Either this guy totally in the closet (he is very Xtain, so maybe he is)...or stereotypes are just bullshit. Because if I introduced most people to him, and my gay friend, and asked which they thought was the queer, they'd guess wrong.

But I give him the benefit of the doubt, because many, many people have often assumed that I am gay, and I am not. If I was, I would for sure be out about it. I find no shame in being gay. And I am not the kind of person who would live a lie. I am more upset that people would assume that I wouldn't be open about it if I was. I just don't swing that way. But I am a small guy and some of my mannerisms and the fact I hang out with gay people makes people - including my parents - assume that I am in the closet. Whatever. Like I said, I would be open about it if I was. Hell, open - I'd probably be in people's faces about it!

 

I never really got along with gay guys, save for the ones on Wordforge, who are actually pretty cool, surprisingly. (Herpetologist, Lethesoda, Tex)

Some of my female friends always come up and tell me that a certain gay guy is interested in me. It happened quite often during the era I used to go out a lot. It disgusted me at the time, but now it is kinda flattering, because I think, if gay guys find me attractive, maybe girls do too. If only I got as many girls to tell me that.

As for gay friends, I have one female friend who is my best friend, and she is bi, and the other gay black guy who I was acquantances with, I considered just an associate that was friends with all my female friends. Never really got along with him. Probably because I hung around other friends who were extremely homophobic, and I did nothing to discourage them from making fun of him behind his back.

 

Nope.

 

Several of my friends are in gay relationships; one very smart and very young man, former student of mine and now a good friend, comes to mind because he just got married to his boyfriend.

But almost all of those (few) friends with whom I was ever close enough to talk about this at length and openly are not completely hetero or gay. That's very true for me; I will be more often interested in girls than in men, much as I have a preference for brunettes rather than blondes, but when a sweet, funny and attractive person comes along, he or she might seem cuddly with (*) either sex or haircolour.

(*) I was about to say "independently of", but that's not true. Their sex isn't unremarkable to me, it looks good on them.

I realize that for many, the sexual preference is a lot stronger, though. But practically every close friend of mine says they're attracted to the less preferred sex or gender now and again. The only friend who ever claimed he was fixated on one sex exclusively was a gay man who defined most of his identity by being gay: Deeply into gender studies at university, politically active and slightly paranoid, and especially interested in getting the state to drop the gender category from all official documents including passports, and the "Herr/Frau" (Mr/Ms) distinction from our language. Frankly, I think he's a bit mad, but he's a nice guy nevertheless.

 

You know how straight guys are looking for a bisexual woman?

Straight women like bisexual men. Just sayin.

 

Don't ask, don't tell.

 

Yeah, plenty. I was friendly with most of the gay kids in my high school. My high school was remarkably welcoming with gay kids, at least compared with some other people's stories. I mean, kids might get called faggot and shit like that, but there was rarely violence, and most of the teachers didn't tolerate crap. The librarian was lesbian, which everyone knew, and one of the more popular calculus teachers was a gay man. There was a Gay-Straight Student Alliance, there were always a few gay couples at prom *.

And these days I still know a lot of the local friends of Dorothy. An old boyfriend of mine worked at a place owned and frequented by gays and drag queens, so I got to know a lot of those guys (and I must say, if nothing else, it was a memorable experience, for how often does one get drafted into service helping a drag queen paint her ass with liquid latex?). Obviously in that particular circle, a lot of them were big old queens and effeminate nancy boys, but it's not like I had a problem with that. It's just their personalities. I'm sure some of it was an act from time-to-time, but we all act from time-to-time, just in different manners and mannerisms. So they have a lisp and waggle their hands a little bit, big screaming, flaming, rhinestone-encrusted deal. There is a lot worse things a person can be than a queen.

And I have to say this, some of those gay men were the best flirts. They can make a girl feel all bubbly inside, and that's saying something.








*although they had some weird, fucked-up rules about that. It used to be that you could go to prom with a same-sex friend or stag if you wanted, but then some fucktard of a teacher/administrator decided that no one could do that anymore, that you had to go to prom with a member of the opposite sex so there was an even number of couples, because otherwise someone could dance with someone else's date, and then there'd be a fight. Not that you couldn't dance with someone else's date anyway, but I digress. Once that decree was announced, people threw a fit, especially the gay kids, who were led by Jenny Silver (who was this smoking hot lesbian, oh my god, she was like a goddess when I was 12, she was all punk-rock goth-before-goth-was-goth, with a red-streaked mohawk and fishnet stockings and all these earrings and black Cleopatra eyeliner...). And they made a very good point in their complaints, so the rule was amended to say that you could go with a member of the same sex, so long as you could prove that you were gay, like all the gays got little tattoos or membership cards or something. Anyway, my prom date ended up in jail, so when I went I had to lie the whole night about where he was ("Oh, my date? He's just parking the car, he'll be right in", "Oh, my date? He's in the bathroom, the shrimp did not agree with him. Or he's jerking off."). I ended up making up a whole character and story about him. His name was Heywood Jones, he was enrolled in university for marine biology, and he was going to Reykjavík to study the Narwhal...

 

Please, can I have some of whatever you are smoking?

 

Ditto. I too wish to study the Narwhal!

 

Interesting. I can't think of one lesbian relationship I know of that lasted.