Wow. Been a long, long time. They generally behave pretty well, so no need to discipline them I guess.
I'm not one of those people who get their panties all in a wad about physically disciplining thier kids, but at the same time, I do agree that if you do it all the time that you do to some extent teach your kids that violence and physical intimidation is a way to resolve conflicts. I don't hit my kids. I didn't even realize it until just asked right now, but I don't. Wouldn't rule it out over the right situation, however.
God saw fit for us not to have none. 8 miscarriages and nothing but pain shame, sorrow and crushed dreams. I cannot imagine myself ever harming a child, but maybe god knows I would not be a fit person to raise a child. Don't beat on your kids, folks, just try talking with them and really listening to what they have to say.
Nothing like a worthless shit like me to drag down a thread. I am sorry. I just read the thread and started thinking about repainting a room, and the wife buying little toys and all the preparations and then all the praying and then the crying as if we thought blood would come out of our eyes, all the dissapointment and having to tell relatives and friends and hearing all there sympathies and my MIL starting to cry every time we tell them we have given up trying for kids. Whew, what a drag thinking that "this time it will be different" that we might have a baby. That we might be normal and be a real family. We gave up because we just couldn't take it no more. It puts your minds though an emotional wringer, plus the wife's body, and it haunts you down deep. People keep saying "keep trying it will happen" but they blame us, but they never been though it over and over. Sorry to rant.
No filthy poor. We checked on adoption, but here it is expensive and you have to be all church going and have a perfect like where they will ask all your friends and all to see if you fit. I did not want to involve the wife until I did some preliminary checking. One question I will never forget was if we had tried to have children. For some reason they don't want those types. The next question was, if god denied you having a child then why shouln't we. The adoptions are all run by quasi religious organizations that make gobs of money off of it all. Plus the fucking piece of shit lawyers involved in it all for more money. Whew. I need to calm down. I need to get off here good evening all.
My old man kicked the crap out of me. This is not to say I didn't deserve it. It's how things were back then. Principal asked if he could warm my britches with a smooth slab of red oak drilled for the fear factor. Pop says, "If you don't know how, I'll come show you." God I love that guy! Notin' says lovin' like a beatin' and a clubbin'! As far as mine, notsomuch. I've probably really whooped her ass once in her life. and I think that was a life/death thing. She's a pretty good kid, so far anyway. I do threaten to though on occasion though.
I remember the last time, but don't recall how long ago it was. The child and I were sitting side by side on a couch at my friend's house. He drank all the water in my glass. I told him he needed to go fill it back up. He replied, "no." After about a two second pause I used my left hand (too bad it wasn't my right since that's my dominate hand) to slap his leg (he was wearing shorts). Everyone in the room saw it. He didn't say a word. About 5 seconds later he went and refilled the glass with water. I'm guessing he was between 10 and 11. He's now a little more than a month away from being 18.
Elisted person: have you looked into Korea? Really, they have a lot of kids for adoption, and not very expensive. Red tape is not too bad either. You may want to check into it.
Some little kid in a restraurant today was howling behind me the whole time, I wish THEY'd gotten swatted. They've gotten rid of smoking in Tennessee buildings, why can't they outlaw children?
I have never had a *reason* to hit my kids. They aren't "perfect angels", but I've never had to hit one...
On the whole, I'm against slapping kids, although I confess my palms itch if one starts acting up near me... Daughter could be controlled with a look when it was an issue...
The whole point in having kids is to have someone to hit and slap around. Someone's gotta keep the little bastards in line.
