http://www.cnn.com/2010/US/04/09/us.russian.adoption.return/ Clearly deporting troubled children is the proper course of action. Ugh! If you adopt the child, it's as much your responsibility as if you gave birth to it. If you find your child has problems, get them treated. It's not like a defective blender that you can return to the store if it doesn't work to your liking.
The only thing I'm gonna say is that most of the children adopted from Russia have had psychological problems. There was a 20/20 report on it about a year ago. Of course no Russian adoptive agency is going to say the kids they are trying to get into US homes have any problems. While I don't approve of what the woman did, what would YOU do if the adoptive child had one of your other children on a hit list and was burning things in the house?
It was actually the "grandmother" who put him on the plane. I am curious to find out if the "mother" was involved. But yes, they definitely need to get that boy some counseling and therapy, as well as monitor his behavior and possibly even medicate. But I doubt that will happen now that he is back in the system in Russia.
Get professional help. In the most extreme case send him to a closed psychiatric ward. But abandoning your 7 year old child? I'm sure there are laws in place which allow for criminal prosecution of the mother and the grandmother.
LizK, I plan on adopting one day. What would I do? I would get the kid professional help - both from a good psychologist and with the help of a great church. Oh, and I would DUMP the kid on those - the help would be them working WITH me and my (one day) wife. This is despicable. I can only hope that the grandmother did this without the knowledge of the adoptive mother.
Sounds like the orphanage did not beat him near enough. Is an adoptive parent allowed to beat his ass? Any kid that sets a fire in his bedroom needs his ass beat and fully.
The problem is that the beatings were probably done out of anger and without instruction. Corporal punishment that is done without instruction is horrible. With instruction, in a caring relationship it is very beneficial. In other words, if the parent can't honestly say "this hurts me more than it hurts you" they probably shouldn't do it.
This kid needs a ton of professional help. The sad thing is that, even if he were to get it, it probably wouldn't help. To display that type of behavior at that age is a bad sign. Sounds like a sociopath with extremely violent tendencies. I don't blame them for being scared. I do blame them for being cowards.
This woman's selfish actions will prevent future American parents from adopting a child from Russia and perhaps other countries as well.
Unfortunately, if he's indeed a true sociopath then the only humane thing to do for society is a mercy kill, since there is no cure for "not having a conscience." I've never heard of a person growing one. You either have one or you don't. Hell, she may have just sent the next Lenin back to Russia.
I do have one really small but important question: HOW the hell did that kid get on the airplane and fly all the way to Russia without the airline crew causing a fuss? Every airline I've ever heard of insists on some sort of guardian going with the kid, or else they have an extra attendant on flight to care for the kid. They don't fly alone, ever!
I don't recall if the article mentioned any other problems besides the hit list and the fires that the kid had, but I wonder if he had a bed-wetting problem or was cruel to animals. It's called MacDonald's triad, and is found in many serial killlers when they look at their childhood.
and will never be adopted due to courts and lawyers and agencies making money off the kids and world be parents.
It sounds like the Russians are sending their "head case" kids over here for adoption. If this kid had mental problems like that then a doctor or someone should have caught it and the kid should have never been put up for adoption. I find it hard to blame the lady here. She wanted to adopt a child and raise it, not adopt a mentally unstable child.
My friends' parents adopted a girl when she was four years old. Unfortunately, by that time, she had seen drugs, shootings, her sister in an orgy, and all kinds of things a 4-year-old should never see. Now at the age of 10, she's been suspended from school for sexual harassment (as I understand it, she tried to get a boy in her class to fuck ) and she's constantly trying to charge her adoptive parents with abuse, despite them being sweet and never once hitting her. They've tried drugs, therapy, sending her away for treatment for a few days at a time. Nothing works. They figure it's God's will and put up with it. What else do you do when stuff like that happens?
Most kids who end up in adoption were taken away from their birth parents for some reason and not just given up for adoption at birth. They're often born addicted to drugs because mom was on drugs during pregnancy, were sexually abused, were physically abused, were mentally abused, or been around all sorts of criminal behavior so bad the state had to take them away for their shit bag parents. They're basically fucked. Speaking of fucked: http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/europe/8612777.stm There have been a serious of high profile cases of Russian children getting adopted by Americans (because they wanted a white child) but the American parent abused or neglected the adopted child. There were even several cases of children being murdered by adopted parents which got lots of publicity in Russia. Basically, nutjobs like the OP have pretty much made sure Americans will not be able to adopt children from Russia in the future.
Now, if she had just been forward thinking enough to have routed him through Poland , the problem would have taken care of itself.
HA. That'll never last. Russia doesn't want to spend the money to take care of the orphaned tots, and there aren't enough people elsewhere willing to take them. They'd end up with the same problem as China. "Dear Americans, will you PLEASE take our girls!?! We'll increase your credit line" Love, China.
