Fuck Always liked Tamar, even though she was pretty much WF's Cigarette Smoking Man, I could understand why she played that game given her illness. Missed her on here, and it feels more than a little sad knowing she'll never be back now. Hope she went peacefully, painlessly and surrounded by love. Everyone should take notice of a redhead with bewbies this weekend, WF honours its own!
Nooooooooooooooooooooooooo wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy! No no no no no no no no no.
I am so sorry to hear this. Even though I haven't been around much lately I still consider myself an 'original' WordForger and feel the loss.
Sometimes, it's hard to realize that there are actual people behind the names on this board. Except for Dayton. He's just a bot programmed to act like an illogical asshole.
Never fear. I was born with a pachydermic memory and I won't need the Tamarchives to keep track of all of you!
I count Tamar as my best online friend, and have missed her deeply since she dropped off the grid. Part of my pain right now is the knowledge that I suck as a friend. I never got her phone number so I could call and check on her, never got a card in the mail (I once had her address but it was saved on a computer that got wiped some years ago and I never reached out to get it again - I need it now to send a note to Zel). One of my "what if" fantasies was that someday I could travel to her home (as well as that of several other online friends) and give her a huge hug and tell her how important she was to me during some of the most painful hours of my life. She was the first person outside my family that I told about my transition, she knew about it months before the rest of you did. And during those times when my wife and I were in open public combat on Facebook, with me taking withering attacks, Tamar stepped up and defended me passionately. No one has ever fought for me like her, before or since - and it's why i don't suffer the criticism she get here lightly. I know it sounds overly dramatic and out of proportion given the distance and my lack of diligence but - I feel like my world changed significantly last night, for the worse. On the other hand, I recognize my loss is microscopic compared to what Zel and those closest to her must surely be feeling, and also that if anyone was due for some relief from the burden of her illness... This is an illustration of why I hope there's a next life, not just for any selfish desire to interact with her again, but because my heart's desire is that after the pain and suffering and burden of her condition, I hope there's a plane of existence where she can walk free of all that for a while.
Speaking of @Zel Garish ,I had typed up a message on FB to give him, but a customer came in to see me. Unfortunately, something goofy happen and the message was gone from my phone when I got done
There's a quote from Dr. Suess as himself, not in his books, that goes "don't be sad it ended, be glad it happened". I've lost a lot, so its the glue that holds my crumbs together these days. Anyhoo... She's not here now, but she was there when you needed her. Hold on to the memory, and be glad of it.
Oh for fucks sake. Tracie and I never, ever saw eye to eye on... anything. I'm still proud to call her an online friend. 43. Damn that's way too young to go. And hey, I'm sorry about the cake I sent you that one time. It made its way across the pond and due to your illness you weren't allowed to enjoy it. Didn't know. If I had known I would have sent you a whip to put to good use
Fuck. Just found out about this through a comment in the Dayton thread.. I didn't know her well, or anything, hardly at all, personally, but I admired the way she cared about people on WF; she must have been a good one to count as your friend. Rest in peace, Tamar, may your loved ones find comfort in the life they had with you.
43? Wow I can't imagine going that young. You know I've been thinking - in the past few years we have had quite a few people passing away at relatively young ages. Weird and sad.
