I'm not criticizing anyone with this comment: I'm surprised this thread isn't a billion pages long. This is so sad, but I can't make it any longer than that. Tamar was truly fascinating, but I feel like it had been so long since I talked to her in any way that I just don't know what to say. It makes me sad, that so many of us had become disconnected from her.
She was my source for figuring out who the fuck I was talking to on Facebook. "Hey Traci, who the hell is [real name]?" "That's [WF name]" "Oh, okay, no way I'm responding to that friend request! Thanks!"
As usual these days, I've been gone from WF for a while. And I come back to read this. 43. That's how old my little brother was when he died.
Like I said earlier in the thread, Tamar beat out any expectation of life she was given. She'd been dealing with this since her twenties when doctors gave her a life expectancy of five years. I'm just glad I knew her for the time that I did and that she is now free of the body that failed her for so long.
You're right, and if we had spent more money on things like science and medical research, she might not have had to endure that. When people cut the budget of scientific research, they're not merely doing away with things like smartphone apps, they're killing people like Tamar. The imaging technology used for the Hubble telescope was adapted and used for medical imaging systems. That no doubt helped keep Tamar alive for as long as she was. We can do amazing things if we spend our money on the sciences. Everyone please remember that.
That, and women's health too. The thing that triggered the whole chain of events began with a bad dosage for birth control pills that caused blood clots. This is why I don't support handing pills out like candy at schools nor the OTC bit that some states are passing. I do support women having much better access to medical care independent of the views their employer may hold or the politics of their county/state. But that's going into Red Room territory so I'll stop here. We women really need better solutions to our fertility and cycles beyond "Here, take pills."
I don't know what to say, but I feel something must be said. And that was it. She is survived by our memories of her.
One of the best trolls I ever had the pleasure of knowing. She was scary. This will fuck up the rest of my day.
I'm way late here, just saw the news on Facebook through another post by Anna. Though I'm no longer active here at all I still feel the need to come by and offer my condolences to Zel and all of Tracie's other friends and family everywhere.
I'm sorry she died, even though she blocked me on FB after she did a right wing rant about welfare and freeloaders and I reminded her she of all people ought to be a little more understanding of people living with disabilities. I felt kinda bad she needed to block me for that, I always felt like it was one less interesting person to talk to.
that's interesting. I don't recall here ever being textbook right-wing on that subject. Compassion (outside of the forum persona) was her best trait from my point of view.
Holy crap. I have been away for a while and missed this. Many arguments with her but she was a ball of fire and I really liked that. We had a couple personal talks on occasion. Wow. That is real depressing. ...
It does not appear that you are (at least you aren't listed under his friends in common). Perhaps somebody commented on your post, and it therefore showed up in his feed. Facebook is strange that way.
Awww....fuck! Just saw this at TrekBBS. I am so sorry to hear about this. She was a wonderful person with a lot of smarts and a truly wicked, wicked sense of humor. She will be missed. Damn.
I guess you're right. But considering how integral she was to the board for 10 or so years, it's still surprising that it's not 40 pages instead of 4.