Miscarriges

They suck big time.

Sorry bro. My mom had one between me and my sister.

Is your wife medically ok? Keep us posted, we'll keep you in our prayers.

Are you sure you want this in the Red Room? Because Apostle is already setting up punch lines.

It's not like anyone can make it any worse.

I'm sorry to hear that man. My sister miscarried her first child. All you can do is just hold her and help her through the pain.

It's a bummer, but if it's the worst thing that happens to me all day, I'm doing alright.

Mary's mother had something like nine before they succeeded with Mary and then her sister.

They could'a stopped with Mary, then we wouldn't have to fly to NC next month.

Well, you could order your steak medium-rare, and they bring it to you well done. That would certainly be an annoyance.

Just a little gallows humor.

Sorry man.

I am my own parent's third attempt at a child.

And me being a nervous fellow, constantly worried during all 3 of my (ex-)wife's pregnancies. Constantly.

It's no consolation, but I read once that most women miscarry at least once in their lives and don't even know it - it happens so early, they just think it's a heavy period.

Most women I know with kids often lost one in pregnancy. How my ex carried all five is just sheer chance I think. Her own sister lost 2 in pregnancy. My best friends lost their first - it was so hard they didn't even tell *anyone* another was on the way until she was obviously showing.

What pisses me off is that I have *twice* seen women bleeding in the ER waiting room when they can still maybe do something, only to hear they miscarried in the ladies room while still waiting. But in truth, I have heard most miscarriages happen because something is wrong - with the child, or pregnancy - and there's nothing that can be done. And while to many women it's the same as - as traumatic as - losing an already born child (my mom still tells me I am he *third* child) maybe it's easier than losing a living breathing baby that you have already held, named.

Then afterwords I obsessed about SIDS- we even did that "family bed" or "co-sleeping" thing where to babies usually slept with us in the same bed (swaddled, and in a U-shaped pillow so we couldn't roll on them, and *over* the sheets/blankets) - and always on their backs at night. But I dunno how many times a night I awoke to check for breathing.

Hell, I still do...check on the youngest. My 7 year old, and my ex's 2 and 3 year old every time I get up to pee I check.

Just bee there for her - her emotions and hormones and gonna be fucked up for a while. I and I heard that the best thing is, ironically, to try again as soon as possible...

Condolences, man.

Sorry to hear of your loss.

Yes, it's unfortunately too common. I lost my first child, in the fourth month.

Most women I know have had at least one, if not more.

You were half-miscarried? That explains a lot.

Meh. The incoming baby just didn't like the accomodations, is all.

Yeah, sis-in-law to be is current having probs with her prgnanacy so we have our fingers crossed at present so I symapthise will all here.

btw, what's with the freaky av?

My pal Frank and his wife had ennumerable miscarriages. They'd been trying for years, and being in their 40s wasn't helping. Something finally clicked, and they got twins.

What's freaky about it?

Ummm, well why do you have a picture of some weird old bint?

yes, it sucks big time.

Why?

That "weird old bint" is T'Bonz.

*Elwood runs like hell.

so sorry to hear, JCD. My friend just miscarried a few weeks ago. I had no idea it was so common.

Oh.....I see. I always thought she was some sort of young, attractive redhead along the lines of Tamar? I mean, why use such a dodgy picture of one's self as an av? She could at least use pics of other people like Cass. Still, I guess this isn't the thread for a debate on T'Bonz's "attractiveness".

*Chuckle*. I guess it's a good thing I don't rely on the Internet for looks affirmation.

The photo was taken from a cellphone which explains the lack of quality of the photo. As for the looks? Well, I'm not 20 and my looks went along with my youth. I *am* an old bint. I will be 50 this summer.

I see no need to use pictures of other attractive women. If people reject me due to my looks and perceived unattractiveness to them, fuck 'em.

Sorry to hear that, JCD. My wife miscarried a couple of years ago. Since she has a lot of "internal issues" and it's doubtful that she'd ever carry to term, we decided that I'd get snipped so that we don't have to go through that again.

Where did he say that it happened within his family?

There's a little thing called inference. Why dontcha Google it?

Inference. He posted 4 words and everyone assumed it happened to his wife. Was there another thread or did he just sucker everyone into giving him rep?